Differences between Males and Females

張貼日期：Apr 03, 2013 5:10:21 AM

Esther Chung

All of us know that there are many differences between males and females in not only physiology but also psychology. I have observed those differences for many years. From my family and friends to others who I am not acquainted with, I heard and saw what they said, what they did, why they did something, and try to understand what they felt. After thinking, I got some conclusions about the differences between males and females.

One of the differences can be observed in the “interflow,” the interactive movements between two genders. When boys are talking to each other, they seem to like to use dirty words or disrespectful words. I always hear some four-letter words in their speech. For instance, many boys say, “shit,” “damn,” or “hell” in their talk. Unlike boys, girls love to use sweet words to communicate with their friends. For example, they say, “I really love you, ” or “You are so sweet, ” quite often. Reciprocally, girls don’t like others to say bad words to them. Take myself for example. I would talk back or even punch the boys who said dirty words to me.

Not only interflow, but also the way of working is different between males and females. Men like to make a choice by themselves, but women often discuss with others before they decide to do something. For example, I have the habit of asking “What should I do?” before I have to make a choice, but my brother doesn’t. He loves to make decisions on his own. When men and women are talking, most men would say what he wants to say directly, and women would often use a roundabout way. That’s why men sometimes will feel bothered when they talk to women. Some men will talk about their trouble or words to a confidante, whatever a man or a woman, but women will confide to a female close friend rather than a male friend.

How men and women respond to others is also different. Men like to keep things to themselves. They will think what they should do and make many plans. On the other hand, women want others’ listening or hug, so when women meet troubles, they will talk about them; however, men always give suggestions to the other. Men don’t know that women just need a person to listen to her words and understand her feeling, no matter if they can solve problems on their own or not. By contrast when men get some troubles, women will show compassion, but not give suggestions. That’s why sometimes men and women will quarrel because of their different expectation from each other. A man doesn’t know that he just needs to say something to comfort the woman, and agrees with what she says; however, women don’t know that men just want to help. And they hope to hear their appreciation, trust, and gratitude when they try to solve the problems. One time, I disputed with my boyfriend because I complained something for a long time, and didn’t pay attention to his suggestions, so he became angry. He didn’t know I just wanted him to listen, and I didn’t know he just wanted my agreement.

Men and women have many differences. Those differences will make their relationship become tense sometimes. I know not everyone is like what I mentioned above, but it’s important that people realize that the two genders are not alike, and know how to get along with the opposite sex.