Being Single or Not

張貼日期：Mar 31, 2012 9:51:25 AM

Being Single or Not

Jill Lin

People are always classified into two categories, the single or not. It is judged by if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend or a spouse. It could be seen as an identity of a person. It influences a person’s outlook and daily activities. Both being single and being married have advantages and disadvantages.

To some people, being single means lonely and pitiful. But other people think a single person is free and happy. When you are single, you will be free to do many things and never care about another person’s thinking or feeling. You can be yourself, and do everything that you want to do. As you don’t need to care for the other person, your mind will not swing up and down with him/her. On the other hand, you may sometimes feel lonely and empty, for there is not a person who can listen to you and care your sadness or hurt. 

If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend or a spouse, when you are tired or angry, he/she could be your punching bag. When you are sad or frustrated, he/she could comfort you and share the pressure and solve the problems with you. You will not be afraid of everything, because you are not alone and don’t need to face the world by yourself. No matter you are happy, angry, or sad, you know there is someone who will share happiness or bad things with you. But at the same time you also need to spend much time and make efforts to care for him/her. You have to do anything carefully and consider his/her feeling before you make decisions. You may sacrifice many things for him/her because of your love to him/her.

To me, sometimes I hesitate and am confused about it. I think that when I have a boyfriend, I will tell him everything about myself and care each other. I like that there is a person to share all feelings with me. When I am angry or sad, I can tell him my feeling and he will understand how I feel. Love is like another home or a swim ring. It always makes me feel safe and warm. I am not scared to face everything because I have him. But sometimes I think love is a heavy bag. It may make me tired and unable to breathe. My mood will be happy or bad all for him. I will always care him much more than myself. I will focus on him anytime and anywhere. And I am not free to do many things that I want to do. I always need to consider his thinking and feeling. I will feel tired and constrained.

All in all, no matter being single or not, people just choose their wants and follow their heart, then enjoy their life. No matter if you choose being single or not, if you are happy, then it is the best choice for you.