August 2012

August 08, 2012

Q & A cont.

Q)

I wanna be happy, but I feel stuck. I want, don't want, and just want it all to go away. I just hate it when people say, smile and be happy.

A)

Happiness is not a thing. It's a feeling. A response to a state of being. It's a subjective measurement that is very often formed when you take in your reflection from the world around you, others, and your own memory. We seek it because we have all these beliefs about ourselves in our circumstances that may or may not actually be true or in our best interest. We desire, we seek to attain, we hope, we wish, we want. Why? Who are we if we do? I would suggest that we force a smile not in the hope of anything, but in the release of self acceptance, and simpleness. A smile doesn't need to have that complicated baggage behind it. Let go of what isn't you and accept whatever feelings that gives you. Stop measuring those feelings. They are not there to judge. They are there to get you to look at yourself and ask questions. Smile because you know you are ok. Smile because you know you will get to where you need to be. Smile because you are capable, Smile because you are doing. Smile because you've given up what you don't need. Smile because you will discover, explore and see what you need not what you want. Smile because a circumstance is an opportunity. A smile created with intent, is a focus. It is an inner mantra that you are more than. Participate enough and you might just change your beliefs about yourself, which will change your thoughts and how you feel. And that is worth smiling about!