Waiting for loved ones

Q) -- Does someone who dies, ever decide to just stay and wait for their loved one?

A):

Yes, no, maybe, depends, but not like you think. Confused? Me too. But that's because it's not a yes or no answer. Just as your views, beliefs, perceptions and understanding changes throughout your life time, so to do those of those who are dis-incarnate. All this changes due to experience, and knowledge and understanding as they progress. Then as they progress, their reality changes. This is due to the changes and opportunities for new creation that are brought about due to new knowledge, new understandings and experience. When, and as all of this changes, how they relate to and interact with the incarnate change.

Now don't misunderstand. This is neither good, bad or otherwise. It's just about process, perception, and communication technique. For the purpose of this question we are strictly talking about the dis-incarnate. Here are some scenarios.

-Many times, upon death, the Spirit will have certain beliefs that are so strong, that they self-create a reality around them that is a per-verbally dense condition that prevents recognition of anything beyond the belief. In some, they then exist in this illusionary reality. Sometimes, they then, being unable to perceive more; due to various reasons including fear; They turn to past affections and connections, or even obsessions of various kinds. This then enables a side shift in existence which brings the earth plane back to view. They will then seek to enmesh themselves in a sort of half life on Earth. Or they will try to live around the life or existence of those who are incarnate.

-Most people are able to bypass such a unsatisfactory existence. Upon death they side step their souls into a in-between astral existence. All this means is that they are not trapped, but they can fully interact with those on Earth as if they are still there. But they have not had a chance to reconnect with their higher self or regain their memories. ect. During this transition time, although different for everyone.... they are able to surround, follow, and make the attempt to connect with the incarnate. And depending on success, experience, knowledge, or lack there of they are then progressed to higher existences. Afterwich, they can come back in various ways, ect, ect.

-Now once the basics of return, reconnection, and regain have been achieved; A dis-incarnate can return. But this is misleading. Because the various dimensions overlay and are within each other and are not linear. So it is better to think not of visits, communication, and interaction in terms of "being with" but rather of "connecting to". The dis-incarnate communication can take on many manifestations. And as mentioned before, All of it depends on the belief, perception, knowledge, experience, and understanding of both the dis-incarnate and the incarnate. And lastly intention of everyone involved. Whew! exhausting!

-You can be sure that they will hear love sent their way. They will feel need. They often desire to share your moments. Sad and happy. Remembrances and Holidays. They also join you in dream states. As you join them in their existences. Although it is rare you will remember. You generally only remember as your spirit approaches the return to physicality. Or your body's interpretation of the experience. This is just and OK as it is important to retain your narrow focus on the 3D experience or your longing for Spirit would endanger your higher self's goals.

-So after all that, A Spirit can choose via of any type of emotional connection to tune into an incarnate life. Be that following them around, guide, influence, chat-up, or just pester. And if the incarnates higher self, guides and angels ok it; for whatever reason, it will be allowed. But, at the same time this "tuning into" happens, the Spirit is not necessarily stuck or physically there 24/7 nor are they limited to an existence on one level or plane. They like us are multi-dimensional. And can exist or tune-into more than one "perceived place" at once. Think of a sun. It's light hits Mars and it's martian atmosphere just as much as Earths. Each planet has it's own realm or existence and they are very different, but the suns light goes there none-the-less. Is the light there on Mars, any less than on Earth? Perhaps, but it is a matter relating to the observer. How much the Spirit "tunes into" and in what manifestation, and for how long is often a choice. Often the choice is one born of a love connection. So they continue to tune into you. How this appears to "them" is dependent on their progress, evolution, experience, and perception. How it appears to you; it may seem like they wait for you. The details of how, what, and why are often beyond us. And really it doesn't matter. It is better to trust in the fact that mutual love connections can and do survive physical death. Fear not their loss. You remain.