Changing disabling feelings

Changing disabling feelings

Have you ever been disabled by your feelings of others? Anger, disgust, irritation, etc.?

I have a co-worker I often struggle with. Interactions with her frequently set me off in a bad attitude. Some of it is based on past experience, some of it personality conflict, and some of it is me. I am often appalled at the thoughts I find myself sending her way. Sometimes this can catch me in a moment, where I suddenly realize that my state of being and existence in the now, become disabled. I began to worry about this and wondered how do I prevent myself from having these undesired thoughts.

Here is what my Spirit Teacher said,

"One of the first steps in changing anything you do not like about yourself is to carefully examine it. When you run across unwanted emotion in your experiences it can be a sign post. This is a signal to become aware of. At times such emotion is a sign of something you wish or need to work on. Other times it is a warning. What you choose to do about this unwanted emotion will determine your perception of the experience. If you wish to direct your experience, examine how you are perceiving the emotions that the experience or interaction with others is affecting you. Once you have more information you will be able to understand the possible effects of your choices. Once you do that you can take steps to change the situation. For example; Everyone comes to their life with a set of desired "focuses". These are often experiences, often they are emotional experiences. So they will create and allow themselves to enter into situations to bring this about. When your experience approachs them your perceptions become entangled with theirs. This entanglement begins a reality that is co-created. How you react depends on how you perceive the lines and how many lines you are aware of. Sometimes, simply recognizing and acknowledging other peoples focus- can be a path to change the emotion you are experiencing.

There is no magic pill to halt emotion other than that of yourself you are willing to swallow."

"Guilt is a self fulfilling circle broken only by the acceptance of who you are and where you are right now. Acceptance comes from surrendering to self love. Shame is the discomfort of this struggle. By looking for the greatest good in you, and others, in the now- you will break the cycles and transcend into forgiveness. This is moving from the lower ego of attachment and into the love that is your higher-self.

This change will only come about by paying close attention to how you feel about your reactions to any given experience. What action you are willing to take as a result of this reaction is where you are right now. If you can embrace this, then shame should depart. If it does not, then there is still action that might serve you better. Some part of you knows this. This then is your struggle with attachment. You can now either let go of it, or you can work to change those thoughts and feelings through action. Doing this is moving through love to your higher self.

This is among the greatest work your soul will do."

--Voices of Spirit.