Learning forgiveness

Q: -- How do I forgive someone who hurt you who does not seem sorry?

A: -- (Inspired by Spirit)

Many Beings, do not possess the emotional experience, tools, and understanding of a larger picture to give them enough perspective to see what effects their actions or lack there of have caused. They just do not yet see how an apology can bring you to experience forgiveness and peace. Many people are so blinded by their own experiences that they will never be in a position to see. It is often a personal lesson in emotional and spiritual liberation to not only forgive them for this short coming, but to forgive yourself for holding on to your emotional reaction. For it is important to not let your emotional response hold you hostage.

Other reasons can be more fear based for you! By not forgiving them is to let them have power over you. So what can only seem like the goal of having compassion for others, it is also about having compassion for oneself. To realize that you are worth growing from all experiences. That to pass through such difficulties one can emerge as something greater than one was upon entering it.

If your angry. You are angry at the hurt they caused or inadvertently caused. And your angry at your feelings. At your reaction, at your reality as a result of this and as a result of your feelings. You've probably spent a great deal of time and effort thinking about these feelings. You may even seem unable to let go. You are loosing your personal power to control your live by choosing to spend time on this. But if you forgive them it can be over. But forgiveness is not forgetting. Do not forget because it needs to be a lesson in the broad human emotional spectrum. It will let you understand a little bit more about human evolution and development. By working to understand this, you will discover you have more tools to deal with future experiences. And the more experiences you master, the more you will be able to control the outcomes in ever more positive ways. Thus moving yourself and others into ever greater states of being.

Forgiveness is all about YOU. Not the other person. Do not forget. If you forgive and forget you risk being taken advantage of again. Forgive and remove yourself from the situation, and actively seek better experiences. IF the other person comes to you seeking forgiveness and help, THEN you might consider helping them with love. For THEN you will have an opportunity to FURTHER ACT upon YOUR forgiveness. Forgiveness is an emotional tool for US to heal, empower and grow. It can lead to opportunities of unconditional love and helping others. It is just as much a teaching tool as anything else. What you do with it, what you intend with it, and what you learn from it, will help define you.

For in the end, the only thing you CAN control is your reaction. How you apply it to the world around you is a choice. The whole concept of forgiveness means "to give" regarding a reason. That reason should always be about developing yourself. Decide how you would have liked the experience to have gone better. When you think about what or how that might be, you will be focusing your original creative thought upon it with all your focus. This will automatically start to generate newer experiences that will let you grow in positive ways. This effort will come back to you in more and more positive ways.

So next time when you are debating whether or not to forgive someone. Imagine without expectation what you wish to happen the next time you encounter this type of experience, rather than what you don't want. Then you will find what you experience is more inline with what you DO want rather than what you don't want. If you focus on you instead of how the other or someone hurt you; YOU will grow ever more into what and who you truly are.