Control over grief

Is it even possible or even right to have control or no control over grief. Does it matter? Is there a corelation between grief and vibrational energy, and is this right or wrong. Is there a corelation between being a better evolved soul and sadness or grief.

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"To understand grief is to break apart the word, and it's associated cause and effect as applied by the experiencer. Control is a poor descriptor as it is a tool of individual perception. Grief also can be a tool. So right or wrong the degree and style of grief is simply a tool to express the self based upon one's need or desire. Grief like many emotional expressions can be very healthy or very bad for one's well being. What do you do with it. The key is in fully exploring the root cause to which grief is applied. On one hand grief is an application of expressing sadness to certain degrees. This is a combined Spiritual, Emotional, and Physical manifestation. Actions such as tears to wracking sobs are natural, wholesome and cleansing and should not be feared. For within such basic reactions is the healing of the soul. This outpouring can be an expression of love.

On the other hand Grief can be harmful. For it can also be a tool for the lower ego to express selfish loss. But this is also not a black or white situation. As there are many considerations to examine as grief pertains to loss. There are a wide range of degrees that can be expressed through loss. So first examine the cause of sadness. If the sadness is based on love, and selflessness, then grief can lead to even greater love and healing into light and happiness. For example; the difference between missing a great love v/s resenting their loss. If the sadness is based on selfish perceptions of loss and individualized internal hurt; Then grief can lead to a self fulfilling prison of further pain and agony. Thoughts such as, I blame you for leaving me. How could you do this? I am nothing without you. I can't go on living alone.

This in itself is a Spiritual tool to narrowly focus the emotion. The Spiritual intent is to direct internal healing to the deep examination of the self perception. Once that is healed or changed, then the original sadness can be addressed. It is never an easy experience, But it can be a liberating one. Once you have overcome the self healing, you can move to thoughts such as; I miss you. I remember the love of your soul. You have been and always will be my love. The memory of you makes me smile. The thought of you brings tears of past joy to my eyes. I will see you soon. This type of sadness and longing is a better place to express grief from. Tears within these feelings can bring joyous release and can easily be shared with others. They can be great teaching tools for understanding the spiritual journey.

So you see, grief can be expressions in the light or in the dark. There is not true good or bad regarding grief. But it is yet another process of self realization. A journey, a degree of reaction within the spectrum of love and fear to understand one's experience on the path of self creation.

Now the manifestations of grief are expressed differently depending on vibrational state of being. But this is not a level or degree. All emotions are available to Spirit. The difference lays in the degree of Knowing and Understanding of experienced Realities. In Spirit, Grief is manifested to a greater or lesser extent based upon ones understanding of one's self. The lower evolved Spirit will have much of the other lower ego based emotions mixed in with Grief, Such as hate, fear, lust, desire, anger. And it can be sharp, intense and harmful. The more evolved being will express grief as a brief burst of pure love mixed with compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, and a longing for reunification of companionship.

Do not fear your standing on these matters. That you question and wonder is an expression of your right evolvement." ---Voices of Spirit.