Happy Fathers day to all of you people.  This post is not about fathers it is about changing reality.  Surely sometime in your youth you thought certain things were a hard and immutable fact and later found out that those things were not true at all.  Shooting stars for instance; your parents, siblings, friends or someone told you that when you saw that streak across the sky it was a shooting star when in fact you later found out that it was just a rock entering the atmosphere and burning up.  The concept changed your reality changed.  Your reality can be matrix like and you are programmed by the people you grow up with of certain concepts and that was your reality.  As your reality changes and your perspective changes then that reality changes and your programming has been upgraded (that is be for the better or for the worse it is so dependent upon you and the stages of your life and what you are going through at the time).  If you had a good mother your reality of women at that time was that they are nice.  If later you married and your wife cheated on you and there was a bitter divorce then your reality may be at that time that women are inherently bad.  Later you meet a woman and decide to marry her or live with her and you have a good relationship then your reality may change again to meet those circumstances.