"Can we teach empathy?
Lots of people want to know. Unfortunately, few studies have been designed to address this question. For instance, there haven’t yet been any controlled experiments that compare the effects of different teaching methods.
But I think there is a lot of evidence to suggest that parents can help—or hurt.
To read about this research, see my article, "The case for teaching empathy."
In addition, check out "Mind-minded parenting," how mental state talk helps kids learn about beliefs, feelings, and the perspectives of other people.
What practical things can a parent (or teacher) do?
Check out these research-based tips for fostering empathy in children. In addition, see these related articles about
understanding failures of empathy in otherwise “nice,” normal people
helping kids "read" facial expressions
activities that promote social skills"