Arguing: "This can often happen if the peer support giver said, "Yes, but . . ." or "I'm not sure . . . ." What can happen is the person may become defensive or may feel inadequate as a result.""
Arguing with the feeling
"That just invalidates him."
The importance of empathy by Melissa Corkhill
Reflective Listening, 1994 Neil Katz and Kevin McNulty
"Withdrawing
1. Logical Arguing
Trying to influence the other person with facts, arguments, logic, information, or expert opinions that happen to agrees with your own.
Do you realize that...?
The facts are in favor of....
Let me give you the facts.
Here is the right way.
Experience tells us that."
References
Family Peer Support Buddy Program, BC Partners for Mental Heath and Addictions Page 12: