Fixing
The Power of Empathy: Feel It (Don’t Fix It)
March 7, 2018
"So as you go about your week, I invite you to creating some more space for emotions in your life. Don’t be so quick to fix things. Listen a while. Let yourself feel what’s happening, and see what it has to teach you."
"If you think ahead to what to say next – like how to fix it or make the person feel better – BOOM! Off the board. You’re into the future. Empathy requires staying with the energy that’s here right now. Not using any technique. Just being present. When I have really connected to this energy, it’s like I wasn’t there. I call this “watching the magic show.” In this presence, a very precious energy works through us that can heal anything, and this relieves me from my “fix-it” tendencies. - from “Surfing Life Energy and Watching the Magic Show,” Marshall Rosenberg
What Empathy Isn't - Marshall Rosenberg Compassionate Communication
Empathy, give the full attention to someone. Give full presence.
Blocks
Intellectual understanding - get this at university -i.e. theories and ideas. This blocks connecting to the felt experience of the person in the moment.
I understand how your feel - but they really don't understand. instead demonstrate understanding.
Sympathy - Feeling sad for someone. we are talking about ourselves.
Fixing - (stimulates loneliness)
Giving Advice - (stimulates loneliness)