Judging
Distinguish Value Judgments and Moralistic Judgments.
Moralistic Judgments
Good v. Evil
Good/Bad
Right/Wrong
Rightness/Wrongness
Either/Or Binary Thinking
"Blame, insults, put-downs, labels, criticism, comparisons, and diagnoses are all forms of judgment." (Marshall Rosenberg)
Value Judgments
value one felt experience over another.
oranges over apples
Value fairness
Value justice
Value creativity
There are a wide variety of Judgement. About who we listen to and who will be heard.
Gender
Generation - Age
Education level
Nationality or Ethnicity
Black, White, Asian,
"Evaluating and Judging
is changing the focus of the conversation by shifting it from the other's concerns to your own diagnosis, interpretation, judgement, or praising of the other person or agreement or disagreement with him or her. The subtle message is sent in this category is "There is something the matter with you." "
Reflective Listening, 1994 Neil Katz and Kevin McNulty
"By taking the focus off the other, height risk responses are very likely to:
derail the conversation
Block the other person from finding the solution to his or her problems
Lower the the person's self-esteem
Distance you from the other
Diminish the other person's motivation and initiative."
Reflective Listening, 1994 Neil Katz and Kevin McNulty
References
Marshall Rosenberg, What is nonviolent communication? p 6.