november26

Ordinary compassion and love give

rise to a very close feeling, but it is

essentially attachment. As long as the

other person appears to you as

beautiful or good, love remains, but as

soon as he or she appears to you as less

beautiful or good, your love completely

changes. Even though your dear friend

is the same person, he feels more like

an enemy. In stead of love, you feel

hostility. With genuine love and

compassion, another person’s

appearance or behaviour has no effect

on your attitude. Real compassion

comes from seeing the other’s suffering.

You feel a sense of responsibility, and

you want to do something

for him or her.

平常的憐憫心和疼愛

會讓一種親近的感受油然心生,

實質上卻是一種牽掛貪愛.

只要對方一直以某種美好出現在眼前,

這愛憐就持續著, 一旦他(她)展現的

美與好下滑時, 你的愛憐就跟著完全改變.

就算這親愛的朋友仍是同一個人,

感覺上卻更像個敵人. 敵意取代了愛憐.

當懷抱著真正的愛與慈悲時,

別人的外表與行為就不會影響到你的態度.

真正的慈悲心來自於理解對方所受的苦.

你覺得自己有某種責任, 也希望能為他做些什麼.