Emotional Abuse by Mother relieved

Kaitlin (name changed), aged around 60, a divorced and single software Engineer, attended 6 of my classes. Her mom emotionally abused her for more than 47 years. And the abuse continued even when her mother was 80+ and dependent on her help for daily living. Kaitlin attended therapy, but it did not help her get over the root cause of her stress. She reported many changes during the classes.

Before the Classes

Abuse by Mom

She was emotionally abused by her mother ever since she turned 13. Mom would fill her plate with food and force her to empty it. When she emptied it, she would fill it again. She gained weight. Then, mom taunted her for being fat. She was always criticizing and controlling.

Mother’s taunts: She agitatedly spoke about her distress from her mother’s taunting words. She did not know how to handle her.

Insomnia: Not able to sleep without TV. Leaving TV on, reading, difficulty falling asleep, waking up 2 to 3 times, and unable to get back to sleep.

Anxiety in the morning about work.

A variety of problems

Diabetic for 10 years

Stress at work – Losing patience.

Anger

Obesity

Stress about job relocation.

Diet: Comfort foods like candies, cookies, and overeating throughout the day.

Not doing any exercise.

Brother’s behavior was a big source of stress. Felt helpless against his cheating and irresponsible behavior.

Her ‘Meditation on breathing’ Practices

Tip mode

Segment mode

Counting mode

Waking up

Driving

I repeatedly introduced the concepts of my articles on ‘Relationships’ and discussed them during the classes. She internalized the messages of the articles and used them in her interactions with her mother.

Now

Mother’s abusive behavior: From the fourth class onwards, she didn't speak even one word about her mom. Instead, she started focusing on her goals: obesity, stress at work, etc.

Episodes of anger at work are lower by 70%. “If someone upsets me, I let it pass. Only one episode in the last 3 weeks. Anger less by 70%.”

Anxiety about relocation for my job is now lower by 70%. “I put things out of my mind.”

Focus – Better

Patience – better

More relaxed

Not overeating at night.

Not procrastinating.

Confidence improved.

Assertiveness improved.

In general, more active.

Accomplishing more.

Overeating in general: Less by 20%. Cut down on cookies and candies.