Self-confidence improved

Now I can stand up for myself

This is a report from Sam in his thirties doing a master's degree (name changed). He reported that he found this website and videos in his online search. Listening to my voice in the videos was very calming for him. He had been playing my videos at bedtime to fall asleep.

After a few classes, he reported these developments.

He stopped his long-standing habit of biting his nails. He felt it was due to his improved awareness, self-control, and reduction of severe anxiety.

He found that his long-standing fear of public speaking was gone. Before practicing this technique, he had great anxiety anticipating his thesis presentation to his class. But recently, he even volunteered to speak to his class and talked for one hour without any problem!

On my request, he sent this testimonial.

“CS is an amazing teacher, mentor, and friend. His techniques have helped me grow so much in the last year and a half.

I began going to CS at a stressful time in my life, at a point when I knew I needed a change. My confidence was low, and I was stressed out from work and in social settings.

His techniques immediately had an impact on my life. I started setting attainable goals and was able to reach them.

Now I am counting my breaths at night before bed, and at random times throughout my day. It helps me calm my mind.

The books CS proposes I read are helping me become a better person, especially in my relationships with others. 

Before going to CS, I had a tough time communicating with my parents and other people in my professional life. Now, I know how to protect my inner self and stand up for my beliefs,  and the relationships are improving. 

I will use these techniques for the rest of my life, as these are helping me be happy. 

I recommend going to CS if you are having a stressful time dealing with anything in your life, you will not regret it!”

My notes

When I asked Sam when and with whom his stress shoots up, he told me during the classes that he had very low self-esteem. When I asked when he lost his confidence, he said it started in childhood. His father emotionally abused him by constantly comparing him with his older brother and putting him down. 

On being counseled over many classes that what his father did to him was his father's sick mind and not any of his fault, he got over the long-standing internal program of being put down that was playing in his mind over many decades.   

Later, he volunteered to speak before his class instead of dreading it. 

Another incident he narrated was interesting. One day when he was with a small circle of friends, one of them passed a nasty put-down comment on him. In good old (bad?) days, Sam would have cowered before the bully. He would have been silently fuming for years. But this time, he instantly retaliated to the bully by using a four-letter word. The bully was shocked and fell silent! Moreover, after some time, the bully privately tried to make friends with him to Sam's utter surprise! 

This and other similar incidents prove the philosophy of Mark Gholston "Bullied don't have plan 'B'. They try their well-practiced plan 'A' on their potential victims. If it backfires, they don't know what to do and retreat. They even try to make up with the courageous person who rebuffed them.  

June 2015

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