Jessica Vogt

COMMENTS

Why are you interested in taking part in developing this Empathy Training?

The reason I am interested in taking part in developing an Empathy training is because I realized that empathic listening is crucial in communication therefore in relationships therefore in life! I am obsessed with communication,

• • How can we avoid misunderstanding?

  • How can we embrace conflict?

  • How can we bring back more joy in our daily communication?

  • Etc.

Empathy is a game changer so having accessible trainings would really make the world, our homes, countries a much joyful place. I want to increase my empathic understanding, become a “first nature” (and not just a second once) for myself and I also would like to train and find a way to generate income.

Jessica: regarding the meeting 1:

A. I Like....

• • practicing reflecting

  • practicing to really listen and be very present in the moment

  • getting to know people's stories

  • very structured and well thought organisation (with website, meeting notes etc)

B. I Wish....

• • hearing people's opinion, or hearing suggestion when I need clarification

  • openly "designing an alliance". I would have felt more comfortable if we would have said out loud, "it's ok to f*** up sometimes".

  • I need the reassurance that we have room for giving "bad empathy", it's ok and it's normal, and we can talk about it.

C. What If...

• • we could try to divide the meeting in 2, first we practice empathy circle, second we exchange comments on the book specifically and ideas to create a course infused with pop corn empathy style. My intention is to model what happens in life, someone shares an opinion, gets heard, the listener then asks if they can now speak and share their opinion, and back and forth. I hope this make sense?

  • I love the idea of coming up with exercise or practice the "Try it" from the book.

What is your metaphor of empathy?

Also explain how and why it is a metaphor of empathy.

A Heart Hug. Mutual vulnerability

What questions do you have about the empathy training project and MOOC?

Meeting Notes

• • The meeting felt like an empathy workshop - how to we create a mooc.

  • Lose Empathic listening: model empathic listening while doing it.

  • How to apply to everyday life?

How might we integrate empathy in every day life?

• in a natural way

To Do: Create an intro Video for how to empathy circle

We are doing the basic course.

Confused?

Can we improve while we are in it.

I didn't feel you have your question answer?

and didn't go, hunger and want to know more.?

have more clarity on the structure/

Objectives

• learning how to do an empathy circle.

Round 1

We are learning how to practice empathic listening

what is the place for incursions in an empathy circle?

Hour 1 :

• how do people go deeper?

• the nature of an empathy circle.

• a need for learning has not been met.

Hour 2: questions to go deeper.

• 45 min brainstorm

• how to go deep

• 15 min checkout

JESSICA VOGT

Questions about structure and practical stuff:

• • Why a MOOC? (vs a University course or else …) - Listening Well gives a solid training foundation

  • What could be a achievable deadline to start offering the MOOC?

  • What are the goals and tasks that need to be completed?

  • Which platform to use?

  • What would it look like? Would it be free?

  • Would it be better to be open and everybody is building the MOOC (like Duolingo) or else?

  • Are we offering a certificate at the end?

  • What already exists out there as empathy training?

  • Would a Empathy Training for Facilitator be included in the MOOC or a different one?

  • What is the budget?

  • How are we tracking progress for participants?

  • Who do we need to ask help with and get in touch with? (Tech people, etc.)

What are other Empathy Training Resources ?

1. EmpathyTrainingLitReview- a compilation of academic papers on empathy trainings.

   1. Scoop.it : Teaching Empathy - List of popular (non academic) articles about teaching empathy

   2. Scoop.it Empathy Curriculum - Public empathy training curriculum.

How will people take the training?

• • 1. On their own

    2. In a group - self lead.

    3. In a group with a facilitator

Empathy Circle: wonder if using it every time. The try it. Have different. was confusing

It’s learning a skill in a skill in a skill

Try it. - skill building - Then circle

What do you appreciate about yourself and why do you appreciate it?

I keep trying. I am pretty stubborn and dedicated once I put my heart and mind somewhere.

I appreciate that I moved to Canada alone and built a new life here. Met my husband, met amazing people, also new sides of myself.

I appreciate my parents who are deafs and raised my siblings and me beautifully I shall say!!! I appreciate that because their disability I can see the world from an unique point of view, and I think it made me also very empathetic, observant of people’s struggles.

List the specific skills that you see that are part of an empathic way of being (ie. attitude - mindset - heartset - consciousness)?

Which of these skills do you most want to get better at?

Skills connected to empathy to me (non exhaustive): resilience, curiosity, courage, trust, shared humanity, vulnerability, boundaries and kindness. And of course, the skill of reflective listening.

I want to get better at self-empathy/self-compassion.

I would like empathy to be my default, my go to place instead of negative judgement. Specially when I am upset or angry.

I need to improve staying fully present and minimise getting in my head looking for the best response.