Bill Filler

TEAM 1: THU

CONTACT

• paddlinman@yahoo.com

ON ARRIVAL QUESTION:

Course Experience: How was the experience of doing this Listening Well course?

I Like

• • I loved the experience I had in collaborating with everyone, and the subject matter was compelling.. I seek to understand the overall structure of the course and where the process is headed. I am open to hear about/be trained in Ciejla’s training, because it seems it would add depth to our experience.

What if

• • If we wish to be able to facilitate the spread of Empathy Circles, then I think we should quickly establish a basic criteria for facilitation, establish a coterie of facilitators, and then solicit participants. One avenue we might explore is having a sign-up sheet online and when we get 3-5 participants, a facilitator would be assigned for online meetings, for 4 meetings, after which the group could decide to continue, or participate in some other way.

HOW CONTRIBUTE

I would like to:

(x) Participate as a sample workshop attendee

(x) Read material, Show up and do the exercises.

( x ) Co-Design Training

( x ) How many hours per week can you contribute?___project oriented

( x) I commit to the initial 6 week project. (chapters 1 to 6)

( x) I can commit to extending to a full book series. 16 weeks, (chapters 1 to 16)

Comments?:

Skills

(x ) I have the following skills I can contribute.

• 1. Special education with emotionally disturbed youth

  2. Advance crisis de escalation trainer

  3. Theater backdrop - Improv

  4. Passibly good writer

(x ) step 1. Design Activity

( x ) Design an Activity

(x ) Design and Facilitate an Activity Lesson.

Design a training for activism.. Crisis de escalation for activists

( ) step 2 .Design Lesson Plan (1 meeting 2 hours)

(x ) Design and Facilitate an Activity Lesson.

( ) step 3.Lead/Facilitate Empathy Training

( ) Lead/Facilitate an Empathy MOOC study Teams

(x ) Lead/Facilitate a Listening well. Training Series.

( ) Lead/Facilitate a newly designed Training Series. To be developed.

Comments?:

what is this.. Not yet.. would do a 16 week series.

All these need to match the vision.

( x ) Visioning

( x ) Help articulate the Culture of Empathy vision.

( x) Write copy. I write well and can help write content and copy..

Comments?:

Technical Production

( ) Do Web design

( ) Create video clips

Comments?: would like to learn

(x ) Do Empathy Activism

( x ) Facilitate Empathy Circles between people online

(x ) Take part in an Empathy Tent

(x ) Start an Empathy Tent in my Area

(x) create new innovative ideas for building a culture of empathy.

Ie Listening challenge. And stress balls

Comments?:

( ) Add Any Other Ideas, Comments, Questions:

METAPHOR OF EMPATHY : What is your metaphor of empathy and why is it like that? Empathy is shaped like a double helix because the expression of empathy is the expression of natural, harmonious creativity.

Express a little bit about a fear you have in any area of your life?

Seeing so many people have long drawn out deaths.. Face it, by being present.

Fear is my friend. Kayaking.. Have fear A henny penny the sky is falling.. But the fear gets things that I might miss.

How do you think reflective listening compares to our everyday conversation?

Reflective listening focuses on the art of understanding what the speaker is saying in the deepest possible way. Everyday conversation has a number of possible objectives. From my reading of the chapter and my experience, reflective listening enriches my everyday conversation, and makes me a more effective communicator. I find this to be so because experiencing what the other person is feeling gives me insight as to what I say and how I say it will be received.

COMMENTS

Empathy Class Training

Listening Well- William Miller

Preface:

no relation between listening well and educational achievement. It’s an ongoing process, something you do to perceive and communicate. The capacity for empathy is hardwired into people e.g. “mirroring”

Chap. 1 & 2:

Keys: keeping quiet a prerequisite, and practice

Our sense of self-identity comes in large part from our relationships

Reinforcer- expanding our understanding through other’s experiences

Start listening practice in a non-threatening environment

Empathy is not sympathy

Chap. 3: Accurate Empathy

Person 1:

• • 1) meaning-

  • 2) spoken word-Person 2:

  • 3) Heard word-

  • 4) perceived meaning

Accurate Empathy: checking in for correctness at each stage of the conversational loop.

Activity: Review a past situation involving verbal conflict and analyze the interaction using the Accurate Empathy checklist. Where did the conversation/understanding break down? If you had made changes at different parts of the A.E. model, how might that have changed the outcome?

Chap. 4: the Attitude of Empathetic understanding

Empathic Understanding is not just a technique, but an attitude (compassion)

Empathy Course threads

Course outcomes

Emotional- Sense of Community: Student and teacher both feel heard

Rational: Sense of increased self-competence: New skills learned or old ones strengthened

Methodologies

Design from the goals backward

Curriculum design structure has to be clear, but also room for individual expression and design