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Facilitator: Jessica
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Chapter 7 "Asking Questions", page 22.
Welcome Questions:
- In your empathic listening practice, what is one example you can share where you practiced empathic listening with someone AND you saw the impact it has?
What were the impacts on the person and on you?
- same question but give one example of empathic listening towards yourself and the impact you felt.
- What something you are upset about and why are you grateful that it happened that way? (inspired by Ryan Holiday) i.e: I am annoyed of my new upstairs neighbour because I can hear lots of noises and loud TV. I am grateful that I have a new loud neighbour because it reminded me that I did not expect to stay in my place for that long and I want to feel motivated by my annoyance and kick myself (with love) in the butt to have financial success in my life so that I can leave our tiny place.
Check in:
- Sharing our answers of the above questions with one other in an empathic circle format (one round)
- Short "Universe" guided meditation
Reflection & Practice on chapter 7:
- what was new to learn for you about closed questions/open ended questions? what was not?
- Practicing the "Try it" and do 10 Questions for closed minded questions.
(if time, let's a do a round with open-ended questions to showcase what it looks like)
Wrap up
- What was "ah ah" moment today?
- What was super boring?
- Stand Up, Stretch, Shake your hands and feet.
- Chat about what to do with ourselves as a group??? (hopefully, we'll have about 20-30 min left)
Edwin
Empathic listening practice, - I do periodic empathic listening with my partner. Sometimes every day.
It helps with the communication and keeping a sense of connection, it also helps with addressing relational issues.
I did write up a family empathy story here.
Self-empathy - I don’t have a formal self empathy practice. It’s more part of the mutual listening. When I am heard by another that is a form of self empathy. I do have a weekly empathy buddy call where we each get 30 minutes to speak about whatever we want to.
Jessica
I use empathic listening a lot with my partner. The impact is that it allows him to clear his own mind when he hears me repeat back.
Self-empathy is difficult for me to practice, which means I really do need it. When I am successful at it, it feels like a relief and I’m feeling more clear about what I want. I use it a lot during my business.
Rita
About empathy
When grandparents call to tell their story, on their first contact towards joining the support group Alienated Grandparents anonymous, I listen to them empathically. At the end of the conversation, they often comment how just talking with me was helping them feel better. They had no clue of what I did, but they sure felt it.
About self empathy.
I have learned to access self empathy when I regret something I did or something I said. When I am able to connect with the need I was hoping to fill, and the one I crushed, it helps me to find what I want to do next.
Edwin
The 5 Why’s
Rita
Funny Improvisation exercises: bouncing questions to each other, no responses allowed = it’s impossible to have a conversation
Try It exercise
Asking closed ended questions tell more about the listener than the speaker.
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