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We had a wide ranging discussion about the Why we are interested in empathy.
At the core was that we value our common humanity and connection.
Also is the insight that empathy is the core to addressing and solving any sort of problem, ie like climate change, etc.
The issue of what is the empathy we are talking about came up.
In academic and the world, people use the word differently.
we had
· self-empathy:
· empathy: of feeling into someone
· imaginative empathy: role playing.
The Team will now focus on developing the empathy circle practice.
Alissa and all
Next week we will review the Benefits of taking part in an empathy circle.
Here is what Ingrid and Jess and I have been working on. You can read this. Also jot down any ideas, additions, feedback in a different document and we will discuss.
So the direction we are headed is to develop the empathy circle process as a core practice and first empathy nurturing step. And to empathically support everyone on the team in facilitating their own empathy circles in person or online.
Ie.
How might we effectively facilitate/host empathy circles?
How might we set up the logics of initiating an empathy circle?
How might we describe what an empathy circle is and motivate people to take part?
How might we create an iterative process to keep improving the empathy circle practice?
How might we harvest and document the learnings gained in facilitating an empathy circle?
How might we build on the foundation practice of an empathy circle?
Etc. etc.
Also, I have a lot of material on the benefits of empathy circles. I’m trying to integrate it here on this site.
https://sites.google.com/site/empathycircles/
So in a sense, the team is an empathy circle facilitators support and development group?
Alissa and Jess, does this all seem accurate with your understanding?
Edwin
Getting to the why?
Start with why -- how great leaders inspire action Simon Sinek | TEDxPugetSound
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4ZoJKF_VuA&t=26s
https://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_how_great_leaders_inspire_action?
So that we can create a message to get people on board.
*Once you know the WHY, you can create the message.
We want to get clear on why each of us is working on designing the empathy course.
Why are we taking part in an Empathy Course?
What are the feelings you would like to foster?
What is the underlying need you would like to met?
Why spending time on Empathy?
Why I would spend time on building a culture of empathy
Why empathy for the world?
Like having clarity.
Why?
Core of our Common Humanity -
Connection
Metaphor -
Why is we want the feeling of a fun shared creative, and connecting dance.
Self empathy: a warmth, an opening.
Empathy: empathy is connection
Imaginative empathy:
What are the visceral felt experience
Profession
How do I offer an empathy circle?
A how to be an facilitator. What do you have to do
And be a facilitator
Have a facilitator support group..
Growth
It feels good and accepting. Creates understanding.
It provides clarity, fulfilling.
What is empathy?
What is the experience?
Following the curiosity. With a questioning mind
Let things happen.
Research is like that. Not controlling the outcome.
An emergent
EDWIN
Jess’ note: I dedicated the rest of my life to building a culture of empathy. Family divides. A way for healing, creating connection and a feeling of connection. Both my father and mother has a different way being, so I had to relate to them differently; with an empathic approach I can connect with anyone.
Traveling brought the realization that everybody is the same, empathy bridges that divide between people.
What is the need that is addressing? What is the felt experience I want? Feeling I am growing and learning.
Values: connection, growth, learning
Is there any limitations? For me, empathy is a inherently positive experience. It is a relationship approach.
Empathy is an integrated process.
Empathizing with Hitler is not agreeing with him.
Empathy deficit in the relationship. Paul Bloom’s book criticism empathy: I don’t see that as empathy.
What is empathy? It might be up to us to define. Close to what Carl Rogers talks about.
Empathy = feeling into of felt experience and others.
Imagining empathy = role play, guess what feeling comes up. What is my experience being “light”?
JESSICA
Empathy is the antidote to shame. Aligned with Brené Brown’s vision.
I can see the benefits of NVC.
Empathy is not about being nice, it’s about holding them accountable.. It’s not about agreement.
Is there a limitation of empathy.
People don’t make a firm request.
NVC is just a way to avoid conflict. What is the limitation?
Maybe need a reassurance about empathy.
Empathy is integrative.
Sympathy is not empathy.
Alissa
I resonate with what both of you are saying.. I say a lot of the same thing..
I was also doing environmental work.. There was something deeper.. I wasn’t speaking to people.. Why people don't’ care. Can understand because There are things I don’t care about
..the empathy helps me bridge the
The feeling of common humanity. As an example. The Lucifer Effect. One core aspect is the dehumanisation of people.
So you are able to do horrible things. We don’t see the humanity. A rock has no humanity.
Was traveling. Had a wallet etc. stollen.. I didn’t give a shit.. Because of reading the book. I could think like that.
Had a shift of thinking.
Had been encouraged to see different perspectives by parents being different,.. Parents had different perspectives and had to be able to relate to both.. Could not take sides, had to see both sides.
I had this continued growth.
The why - there is that personal quality.. Feel happier, how I interact with people. It can’t hurt.
Hitler: I don’t want to teach pity.. Maybe there is a bad side to empathy. It’s a way to see the bigger picture.
Have empathy for Hitler and the people he harmed.
(don’t mean you support actions)
What’s not empathy?
How does empathy feel? Feeling of curiosity and openness.
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