Administrative: (HEADINGS) (Stop-Watch)
Meeting Prep
Read: CHAPTER 11
Roles
Facilitator: Edwin
Time Keeper: (Cielja)
0. Write 'ON ARRIVAL QUESTION’ below:
(Before or on arrival to the meeting write an answer to this question below)
RECORDING: Start (Time: 30 Sec)
INTENTION SETTING: Opening (Time: 30 Sec)
Building a culture of empathy: To create a feeling of mutual authentic expression, mutual listening, constructive dialogue and collaborative action.
New: Share a motion that represents the feeling of a culture of empathy
Thumbs up - Record
MIRRORING FEELINGS: Self Empathy (2 min) , check-in, mirrored feeling. (Time: 5 min)
Topic: What is alive in you and CHAPTER 11
Bill say and record quotes
Next week Read: CHAPTER 12
Tasks Assignments.
INTENTION SETTING: Closing
End: RECORDING
( ) Post Meeting Harvesting - (Copy-Sort Material)
( x) Text posted to Participants page
( x) Text Posted to Topics pages
( x ) Video Processed and Uploaded
( ) Posted to ???
On Arrival Writing Question: EXPRESS FEAR
Express a little bit about a fear you have in any area of your life?
Describe the fear as a sensation in your body.
EDWIN RUTSCH
A big fear from me is about income. I haven’t been very effective at making a reasonable income from my empathy work which causes a lot of stress for me and my relationship. I feels like an ongoing anxiety in the background.. I’ve gotten so used to it that it’s difficult to articulate from other anxieties in my awareness. Sometimes I wake up around 4am and start thinking and thinking.. Sort of an ongoing rumination trying to address it.
Seeing so many people have long drawn out deaths.. Face it, by being present.
Fear is my friend. Kayaking.. Have fear A henny penny the sky is falling.. But the fear gets things that I might miss.
A fear of me is not seeing my younger son because of the distance since he moved to Portland. I miss out on his life. Even though we skype, but we really have to make an appointment and it is different than having him close to me. I am afraid that it may even be a couple of years. There are more hurdles why I could not go and see him, or why he and his fiancee may not come here. To start with the last.
They just started their jobs, so they cannot schedule vacation time yet. The finances is for both of us a player. For me plays also a role that I can not leave my husband alone (he is 85 and start forgetting things) and he does not want to go anywhere anymore (traveled a lot in his life) Another element is that I dislike going by airplane. All the hassle of the scanning etc.
Fear of career and settling down professionally . concerned how I will make it.. So may self doubts. Financial incomes.
NOTE TAKINGs
What are insights from the chapter?
The empathy circle addresses the topic of Expressing yourself because everyone gets more or less equal time to listen and be heard. This quality of mutual listening and a relationship of mutuality.
In other groups comes up.. Listening to others and they don’t listen back.
This reminded me of NVC.. Gordon, Miller, Rosenberg all overlap/
How do we deepen the empathy in the groups
People want to contribute and do it with advice.. Where empathy is more supportive.
Talking about listening with AirBnB host..
Empathic listening in daily life is not practical.
Extending the communication..
I have been looking for what is in this chapter.. Balancing needs.
What questions can I ask to understand others?
Being present while talking - when sitting next to someone - how to strike up a conversation? How to I start and continue a conversation.
How do I read people's emotions and understand what is going on in their mind.
What questions could I ask them
My strategy is to ask a question.. Try to get feedback to
Hard to take steps to connect with people.
Not that I understand the person. It’s to give back what they say. Supporting them in expressing themselves.
Be so
Skill is to clearly express yourself.
Express your feelings and thoughts so they can look into you and you are an open book
Understanding and being visible are two different things
Understanding is we all need to be heard.
If there is a topic. A conflict. Or figure out something.. Then the understanding is about the top.
Tired to help Bill with formulating a question.. Try to help the person express themselves.
‘I’ is all about me. Western world says think about others.
Don’t agree with what Miller says,
- express yourself.
Give a chance for the other person to up with a solution
Having a hard time coming up with content with this..
There are a lot of concepts. I feel there is a lot here.. We could talk for hours.
I like the mutuality. Taking care of others and yourself.
The techniques could be fleshed out
There was a bit of advice giving.. Guilty = part of my job as teacher. Still on a learning curve.
Nice how we can talk about it here and doesn't interfere with the work we are doing. (the connection)
I can understand how it feels like advice. The community is more importna