Administrative: (HEADINGS) (Stop-Watch)
Meeting Prep
Read: Chapter 13. Empathic Understanding in close Relationships
Roles
Facilitator: Edwin
Time Keeper: Bill
0. Write 'ON ARRIVAL QUESTION’ below:
(Before or on arrival to the meeting write an answer to this question below)
RECORDING: Start (Time: 30 Sec)
INTENTION SETTING: Opening (Time: 30 Sec)
Building a culture of empathy: To create a feeling of mutual authentic expression, mutual listening, constructive dialogue and collaborative action.
MIRRORING FEELINGS: Self Empathy, check-in, mirrored feeling. (Time: 5 min)
QUESTION ON ARRIVAL: Share
EMPATHY CIRCLE:Topic:
What is alive and Chapter 13. Empathic Understanding in close Relationships
Discuss Task Assignments. Facilitate Circle
Each person to host - facilitate their own empathy circle during the week with family, friends, community, etc. Report back on the experience next week. Uses the following web page or one page PDF How to Host and empathy circle Guide.
Next week Read: 14. Listening for Values
INTENTION SETTING: Closing
End: RECORDING
( ) Post Meeting Harvesting - (Copy-Sort Material)
( ) Text posted to Participants page
( ) Text Posted to Topics pages
( ) Video Processed and Uploaded
( ) Posted to ??
On Arrival Writing Question: What concerns might you have in facilitating an empathy circle with family, friends or others?
Edwin:
A lot of people don’t like the ‘rules’ of the empathy circle. They say I just want to talk normal. I don’t want structure. So I have this feeling I am pushing something on them. So have concern about the tension this creates. I also have a fear of rejection.. This is something I’d like to do. I make a request, and fear I will be rejected.
Varsha: not knowing how to prepare them about what's going to come and how to set the context and take them into the process and how to close.
Bill: I have a great amount of confidence in the empathy circle process, so once started, I feel quite confident. The area where I feel less confident is assessing the readiness or willingness of people to participate in the process during tense, fluid social situations. I haven’t done much in facilitating a conflict empathy circle, so that’s another area where I would want more experience before I’d be assured of my skills.
Peter - My main concern regarding running an empathy circle is to find people willing to participate. I need to connect first with people one on one and access their willingness, I trust that once the circle starts it will work well if guidance is provided and limits are set regarding equality of time and intent of the circle.
Cielja
I have not proposed it outside the groups/students that I taught, so it would be my first time to do that with people who do not know my work and I have no Idea how to start that…
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Each person to host/facilitate their own empathy circle during the week with family, friends, community, etc. At least 3 people.? Report back on the experience next week.
Uses the following web page or one page PDF How to Host and empathy circle Guide.
These are basic instructions for holding an empathy circle with a group of 3 to 5 participants (4 is ideal). This is one of the most accessible and effective ways to exercise and grow your empathy muscles.
How To Basic Empathy Circle - 2.0.pdf
A downloadable and printable simple 1 page How To steps for taking part in an empathy circle
Making a video instruction
What is a topics? A common ground, Need some juice.
What is a question/topics for close relationships?
What is a question/topics for talking with strangers?
Edwin
Good to get these insight. Helpful
Why do we want to try this?
(E. A positive story.
Talk about a peak experience in your life?
What is a anxiety or fear you are dealing with?
)
Why is there discomfort with empathy circle?
What is the feeling I want in for doing empathic listening.
Varsha
Do you know ways to start an empathy circle with my husband?
We had an argument 2 days ago. - how do I believe what he is saying is true.
Bill
Ambivalent feelings
Does not feel authentic. (How might we make it authentic?)
Don’t feel comfortable with the selling of the idea. Does not feel good.
The pressure and the structure. Want it to be real.
Want it to be free flowing…
Has to feel right, and feel right for me.
Peter
Cielja
We are not mormon missionaries..
But how do we do it.
( do it online?)
Have to do it from a personal level?
People don’t know this is a thing.
Empathy tent is concrete.
How do you create a circle with even one person?
EC NOTES:
Edwin
Varsha
Need a common ground or connection?
Intentionally setting a time to practice the skill?
Bill
Peter
Chapter was a slog. After a hard day.
Didn’t find the chapter was that interesting.
Want to learn from the others.
Wasn’t much content in the chapter.
The most juice I get is from others.
Cielja
Author says good when everyone values the communication approach.
How do we learn?
Confusing chapter. That is not the listen that we are after.
In the MOOC we, need juicy exercises.. Some fun games. He has some good topics.