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MEETING AGENDA
Cielja and Edwin meet earlier today to talk about the bigger picture and framing of the empathy training and also came up with some exercises for this meeting..
Write On Arrival Writing Question
0. Join us in designing an empathy training MOOC Random Thoughts Page: Empathy Team 1 : meeting 4: (Edwin)
Opening Feeling exercise: How do you feel? (Cielja )
Share: Answer to Question (1 min each) (Edwin)
Time Keeper?
Meeting Notes
Susan Partnow compassionate listening
Edwin maybe jury duty next week
Created a
Summary Review of Chapter 6 and Chapter 7 - slide show
Empathic Listening on the Chapters (5 min rounds, 1+ hour)
Start with ‘Try This’ Exercise
How was this and chapter discussion
Next Steps (10 min)
Design and Document your activity. Place in Tool Kit folder.
Meeting Minutes/Report?
Next Week Meeting Preparation
Chapter 8 - Forming Reflections
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What have you experienced while listening to others in our circle? Ie. Can you recall and share some feelings that came up?
Cielja
I felt quite some anxiety sometimes when I did not hear a person totally or I did not know the words they were using.
Also the reflective listening is different from how I am used to do empathic listening in communication. I think it is a different skill, to capture all a person says, when there is not really an underlying wish to think further or an emotional struggle. It is more: you say something, I reflect you back, now I say something etc. But it is great for me to practice this. For others who will practice this in our course later on, it may be necessary to explain that this is one way of listening and only one skill in the total of the empathic communication.
It also helps that Peter and I both have gotten mics!
And Edwin’s remark relieved the pressure some for me that reflective listening could be as much as a ‘grummel’ (how would I word the sound lol) as long as the other says: I feel heard.
Edwin
I feel a wide variety of feelings. Sometimes satisfaction that I have a clear understanding of what the other person is saying. A feeling of deeply understanding someone and the feeling of depth and realness. A feeling of richness and growth. I am moving into the deeper world of truthfulness. Make me feel hopeful and connected.
Sometimes anxiety that I don’t feel I’m listening well. My listening is getting worse over time.
Varsha
I have experienced that I relate to some of the people who have similar experiences / opinions or sometimes similar understanding. I relate to Bill’s idea of framework and expectation from the training. There are few things that are completely new to me and that makes me introspect and test those ideas in my personal life to see its impact.
I have had little hard time listening to Peter due to sound quality. I sometimes find difficulty in hearing Ceilja as well.
It gives me some hope to realize my vision but at the same time I feel overwhelmed by the idea of finding ways to keep the flame burning. I feel blessed to live in this internet era without which I don’t know what would I have done.
Bill- I have experienced what I feel is the underlying community that is available to us all. Groups members have proposed to take empathetic principals into their own area of expertise, are looking to expand the dialogue, and grow.
Bob
While listening to others, I am growing as a human being. My ability to connect with others and identify with them is improving. Some feelings that came up -- joy, happiness
Peter
I notice for myself moments of getting lost into a state of positive thought when in the group, all other things melt away. That’s when I know I am listening well.
Instead of telling each other how we are feeling, we can take the role of observer and see if we can ‘read’ the other: looking at them silently, is there anything that you ‘get’ from how they are sitting, their expression; could you read their thoughts, the things that they have going on at this moment? Is there any information that you capture about how they are doing maybe in general?
Exercise: one person looks at one person; that person looks at another person etc. Even though we all have therefore a ‘task’ and that is what the observer also will ‘read’; most likely you still will catch the things that a person has going on: their mood, their intention, their energy, their thoughts, and even their wellness.
How it was: Unfortunately Peter was not visible and therefore the ‘last’ person, Edwin had no one to observe. However, even with trying to read Peter without image,
Edwin was able to even ‘tuning in’ with him, mentioning what he captured of
Peter, only from some words that Peter had said. So we could add this
exercise too: Without image, what do you read about a person by only hearing them; what do you read when only seeing them.
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