Ask Your Best Self
Ask Your Best Self
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Using ask your best self...
Increases self awareness
Establishes a coping mechanism
Grounds thinking
Implementation
Implementation
Overview
This strategy is for individual use.
The Meta-Moment is training yourself or another to pause prior to acting on first emotional response.
The Meta-Moment is a short period in time that a person asks themselves "How would the best version of myself respond?"
The goal is to separate the initial emotion with the most beneficial response.
This needs to be prompted and taught over time.
Core Components
Meta moment is practiced after being explicitly taught
Student must take time to truly practice asking themselves how the best version of themselves would respond.
The student them needs to process this possible response and implement
Proactive Implementation
Proactively implementing "Ask Your Best Self" may look like building self-talk phrases into the culture of the classroom. Students should be taught the value of self-talk and the purpose/options it gives.
Responsive Implementation
Responsively implementing "Ask Your Best Self" may stem from a need for increased self belief, agency, and overall self esteem. Explicitly teaching students this process provides a way to support elevation of self.
Bucket Fits
Bucket Fits
Connection
If the need is connection then the student should focus on connecting to their self and building their own sense of agency, value, and esteem.
Skills Training
If the need is skill building then the student should treat this as a process and mantra. The student should practice using a processing sheet, mentally, or saying it out loud.
Awareness
If the need is awareness then pausing the student through signaling and using "Ask Your Best Self" as a prompt may allow the student to think outside the current situation.
Emotional Regulation
If the need is regulation then the student may use this as a way of regulating their own emotional state. The phrase can be signaled to better understand what they would do in a regulated state.
Consider Factors Prior to Start
Student factors-
Gender, race, function, topography, family dynamics, interpersonal relationships
Contextual factors -
Resource availability, classroom instruction, physical space, time, technology
Intensifying or Fading During
Duration
Frequency
Feedback
Reinforcement
Goals
REMINDER
Make a note to document when you're starting this intervention.
After 10 consecutive school days of implementation, use collected data to determine the intervention's effectiveness.
Resource
Resource
Meta-Moments. The absolute BEST tool for responding instead of reacting. In simplest terms, it’s a pause. The Meta-Moment involves hitting the brakes & stepping out of time. We call it meta bc it’s a moment about a moment. We often associate it w/counting 1-10 or taking deep breaths. Anything to give ourselves a little room to maneuver & deactivate. Ask questions: “How have I handled situations like this in the past? What would my Best Self do right now? Visualizing our Best Self redirects your attention away from the “trigger” & toward your values. This helps us to choose a helpful regulation strategy. Steps: 1. Sense the shift. You are activated, emotionally or physically. 2. Stop or pause! Create the space before you respond. 3. See your best self. Think of your best self adjectives in vivid detail, your reputation. 4. Strategize & act. Use your RULER skills & lean into your best self. This process never ends. “We’ll never stop having to work at being our best selves. But the payoff is worth it: better health, decision making, relationships, better everything.” Tips: May have to chill first so you can think rationally. Know your own personal, regular go-to strategies so they’re v. familiar & easier to access. Good brainpower depends on a good diet, exercise & sleep (as does reduced anxiety, depression). Take care of you by doing things YOU love. Practice mindful breathing, which is perhaps the ultimate prevention strategy. 5. Attend to your emotional reserves (“body budget”) & re-fuel as needed.
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