In The Think Book of Trust: An Essential PRimer for Building Trust at Work, Chareles Feltman defines trust as "choosing to risk making something you value vulnerable to another person's actions."

Distrust a general assessment that "what is important to me is not safe with this person in this situation (or any situation)."

Self-Trust 193 Normally the first casulaty of failure or mistakes. We stop trusting ourselves wehn we hurt others, get hurt, feel shame, or question our worth.

Seven elemetns of trust

1) Boundaries- You respect my boundaries, and when you're not clear about what's okay and not okay, you ask. You're willing to say no.

2) Reliability- You do what you say you'll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don't overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.

3) Accountability- You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.

4) Vault- You don't share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are ekpt, and that you're not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.

5) Integrity- You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.

6) Nonjudgment- I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment. We can ask each other for help without judgement.

7) Generosity- You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.

• Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart p. 191-192

Trust is a cognitive assessment. Trust can bring up alot of emotions including hurt and defensvieness.

Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart p. 191

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