Perfectionism is not striving to be our best or working tward excellence. Healthy striving is internally driven. Perfectionism is externally driven by simple but optentially allconsuming question. What will people think?

• Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart p. 137

Perfectionism is a self destructive and addi tive belief system that fules this primary thought: If i look perfect, live perfectly, work perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgement, and blame.

One of the biggest barriers to wrking tward mastery is perfectionism. Achieving matery requires curiosity and viewing mistakes adn failures as opportunities for learning. Perfectionsim kills curiosity by telling us that we have to know everything or we risk looking less than. Perfectionsim tells us that our mistakes and failures are personal defects, so we either avoid trying new things or we barely recover every time we inevitably fall short.

Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart p. 142

We Fall Short