• Self-Compassion has three elements: Self Kindness, coomon humanity, and mindfulness.

  • Self-kindness v. Self-judgement: "Self compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self criticism. Self compassionate people recognize that being imperfect, failing, and experiencing life difficulties are inevitable, so they tend to be gentle with themselves wehn confronted with painful experiences rather than getting angry when life falls short of set ideals.

  • Common humanity v. isolation: Self compassion ivolves recognizing that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience- something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to 'me' alone.

  • Minduflness v. Over-identification: Mindfulness is a non-judgemental, receptive mind state in whih one observes thoughts and feelings as they are, without trying o suppress or deny them. We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time. At the same time, mindfulnessrequires that we not be onver-identified with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught u p and swept away by negative reactivity.

Most people talk to themselves in ways that they would never talk to people they love.

Atlas of the Heart- Brene Brown p. 138-139

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