Your Favorite Single Lady's Relationship Advice

Many tend to hide their true feelings to their significant other. Generally speaking, they are closed off and have trust issues leading to major problems in their relationships. An issue both of my friends had in their past relationships was communication. If something bothered them, they would keep it to themselves and let it go eventually. They said it was painful to not be able to resolve these issues. You can do something—you can speak up about your obstacles and trust your partner to come to an understanding. One of my guest speakers said that her previous partner had too big of an ego and could not decide for himself. She said it bothered her that he always listened to other people’s opinions on their relationship. A relationship is between two people, and if someone tries to make you feel different towards your partner, you should not listen to them. She could have tried talking to him about it, but if he kept caring more about other people’s opinions, at that point, it was just time to let go. Anyone of any gender, know your worth! If the same or even new problems keep happening, reflect and see what you can do differently. Do not be stuck in something in which you do not want to be. However, if you truly want to be with your partner, then compromises must be made. 

A relationship is never just filled with problems. There are happy days when being with a partner is the only thing you want to do. Some things my friends liked about their past relationships were going out. One of them enjoyed going out to eat with her partner and shopping afterward. She said he would go to her house and be respectful to her and her parents. They would have long conversations with anyone that was in their home and sometimes bake for the family. My other friend enjoyed it when her partner would call her because they did not speak often. She liked being on FaceTime, and when they would finally meet again, they would make popcorn and watch movies together. She said that spending time with her partner was really special to her, even if it was just at home. They both agreed that when your partner makes an effort to hang out with you, it is the best feeling in the world. Try to look for the same qualities in people when you are in the process of finding someone.  

Relationships are full of joyous ups and crazy downs. This balance is totally conventional! A few things my friends wanted their partner to do was to be more honest and more open about their feelings. One of them wished that her partner would have been loyal and true to her. I think that we could all agree on the fact that loyalty in a relationship is vital for stability and a good run. My guest speakers both said that receiving flowers and paying attention to their problems was considerate of their partner and kind. A date idea suggested was a picnic on the beach during a sunset. The other speaker mentioned that she would be alright with anything as long as they would not argue. She also discussed that she enjoys being posted on social media by her partner but not being controlled by what she can post. They both agreed that a good relationship with each other's family is essential,  but these familial relationships do not have to be extreme. They said they would like to go on dates as often as possible and talk on the phone a couple of times a week. They both agreed that they would not be significant others and keep in touch with their exes. They also said that having girl-friends was fine as long as they did not flirt with each other. Eventually, with understanding and time, you reach mutual agreements with your partner on boundaries. 

Since Valentine’s Day is almost here, try to be a bit bolder and tell your special someone how you truly feel, but only tell them if you are ready. Every person is different, so take the advice that resonates with you and drops what does not. Even if you are not a fan of Valentine’s Day, maybe watch a movie with your family or bake something together to show appreciation to them. Don't forget to stay safe and always know your worth! Happy Valentine’s Day!