Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Raheem. Here is a full article-style write-up in English, summarizing the theme of restraining anger (kÄáșim al-ghayáș) from Qurâan and Hadith. You may share this, inshaâAllah:
Anger (ghayáș) is one of the most destructive forces within the human soul. Left unchecked, it can burn relationships, consume good deeds, and drag the heart into darkness. Yet when restrained for the sake of Allah, anger becomes a ladder to divine love and one of the fastest ways to attain His pleasure.
Allah, Exalted is He, praises those who control their rage:
â...and those who restrain their anger and pardon people â and Allah loves the doers of good.â
Qurâan 3:134
This verse places restraining anger among the qualities of the people of taqwÄ. Not only are they forgiven by Allah, but they rise to the level of ihsÄn (spiritual excellence), earning Allahâs love.
The Messenger of Allah ï·ș emphasized that true strength is not measured by physical dominance, but by mastery over oneâs temper:
âThe strong man is not the one who defeats others in wrestling. The strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger.â
(Bukhari 6114, Muslim 2609)
This hadith redefines power: the battlefield of the soul is greater than the battlefield of the body.
In another narration, the Prophet ï·ș gave glad tidings of immense reward:
âWhoever restrains his anger while being able to act upon it, Allah will call him before all of creation on the Day of Resurrection, and will let him choose whichever of the wide-eyed maidens (ងƫr al-ÊżÄ«n) he wishes.â
(Abu Dawud 4777, Tirmidhi 2021 â graded hasan)
Here, restraint over anger is linked to honor and distinction in the Hereafter, a sign of how highly valued this act is by Allah.
The Prophet ï·ș also warned of the âbankruptâ person (al-muflis): one who comes on the Day of Judgment with prayers, fasting, and charity, but has insulted, harmed, or oppressed others. His good deeds will be transferred to his victims until he is left with nothing. (Muslim 2581).
Most oppression arises from unchecked anger. Thus, restraining anger does not only earn rewardâit protects all other good deeds from being nullified.
It purifies the heart â anger feeds the ego (nafs) and the whisperings of ShayáčÄn. Restraining it cleanses the soul.
It prevents injustice â words or actions done in anger often harm others, leading to regret and loss of reward.
It attracts Divine Love â Allah explicitly states that He loves those who control anger. To be loved by Allah is the highest aspiration of a believer.
It transforms relationships â by pardoning others and showing mercy, one reflects the Prophetic character, bringing peace to families and communities.
The Prophet ï·ș prescribed remedies for anger:
Seek refuge in Allah from ShayáčÄn (Bukhari, Muslim).
Change physical posture: sit if standing, lie down if sitting.
Make wuážĆ«â (ablution), as anger is from heat and fire.
Remain silent instead of speaking in anger.
Restraining anger is not weakness. It is one of the greatest forms of spiritual strength and a gateway to Allahâs love. A single moment of silence in anger may preserve a lifetime of good deeds, while one outburst can destroy them. In the economy of the Hereafter, this act may indeed be one of the most âinfiniteâ sources of rewardâbecause it protects, multiplies, and elevates all other actions.
đ Takeaway: Restrain your anger for Allahâs sake, and He will restrain from you His punishment, shower His mercy upon you, and preserve your deeds for the Day when nothing else will matter.