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“My World had Come to an End!”

Alexy how did your restoration actually begin? *

First of all i thank this ministry for allowing God to minister to the brokenhearted and to restore marriages through RMI. The day my EH confessed and told me there was someone else and he no longer loved me, that automatically brought me to my knees and reminded me of how i was the cause... i was unfaithful to God. i just kept crying for 3 days without food asking God to forgive me.

The pain that i felt, i knew God felt that pain when i chose my EH (back then my boyfriend) over Him and i backslid. And because of that guilt, I kept crying. I totally lost my appetite and wanted to commit suicide: the thought of the disappointment in the faces of my children knowing i had committed suicide kept me from doing it. I wanted them to know that i loved them and doing that would seem to them as rejection, so i prayed to God to take my life and I lay on my bed to sleep hoping not to wake up.

But God be praised, i woke up the next day with that pain in my heart, in fact, as i was sleeping i could feel it. I had never felt such pain, and over the next days i kept wondering how i could separate myself from that pain. At that moment was the most painful realization (me breaking the heart of God in that manner and my EH doing the same to me). I knew you reap what you sow and that verse kept ringing in my head and the verse, cursed is the man who puts their trust in another man. I had trusted my EH so much that i was in too much pain and shock that i wanted to die, in fact, i preferred to die BECAUSE I THOUGHT MY WORLD HAD COME TO AN END.

Prior to meeting my EH I was so in love with the LORD as a young girl, and on meeting my EH i turned my back to the truth that i knew and did fornicate, which led to pregnancy and eventually cohabiting with my EH; six years later we officially married. AND my excuse for everything was 1 Cor 7:16 knowing that my faith would save my spouse even when i was warned that darkness cannot meet with light by most of my spiritual brethren. I honestly believed this verse and quoted it for myself. So now i look back and i know that i was only gratifying my flesh. Upon examining myself more, i realized that i did not trust God. I got me a born again husband, so i did it my way. Several times during my journey i kept repenting of not trusting God and that is what kept me on my restoration journey because my flesh wanted the easiest way out of this situation and i thought walking away would do it

How did God change your situation as you sought Him wholeheartedly Alexy? *

God started changing my situation when i learned to let go and stop pursuing and calling my EH and especially having a gentle and quiet spirit. In fact, i started to give up anything that was irritating my EH. I kept myself busy even whenever my EH was around, this helped me not to talk unnecessary things or words that i would regret later.

GENTLE AND QUIET SPIRIT is golden, that was the winner. I would welcome my EH even when he’d come home in the wee hours of the morning without complaining, warm his meal and prep his bath, then excuse myself without a word and if he did not want anything, then i would still excuse myself because he never wanted to be with me in the same room. When he noticed i was giving him his space, that’s when he wanted to be around me. He started saying i was doing that to get back at him, yet he never realized how much pain it took me to do that.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), did the Lord teach you during this trial Alexy? *

The golden rule: gentle and a quiet spirit and not slandering my husband are what i learned through this ministry. Looking at my sin, not on others, also helped me look to God. Above all, Love is what i have learned as God kept speaking to me to love my EH as God loves me. My lovely sisters, this journey was the most painful, hard, but also the most rewarding AS I GOT TO KNOW GOD FROM ANOTHER DIMENSION!

Alexy what were the most difficult times that God helped you through? *

While I was expecting my fourth child, it was hard to go through with pregnancy in those circumstances, but again God saw me through and even the time i was giving birth, i gave birth like a Hebrew woman PTL. I actually prayed that my EH would not be there and he was not. I didn’t want him because he would call and talk to OW in my presence or excuse himself to talk on phone to OW, which was painful to me.

The other difficult times was when my EH would go to work early Monday morning and come back on Saturday night, with the rest of the days he would be spending with OW. It was painful but i learned to be quiet and gentle in that and actually kind to my EH. Also the many times he would talk on phone to OW in my presence.

Then my children would all fall sick at once, that was really a trying time and people at my place of work would not understand at all, and i would have no one to help me apart from my maid who was like an angel at that time. BUT God saw me through it all. I was so afraid of my home while it was still under construction; that place was dark and i feared it so genuinely that i was afraid to move to the house. But when all my troubles poured on me the fear just vanished, i don't know how but i started getting a welcome feeling from that place as our home and i felt that was the only place i could run to... that is how i ended up moving to our present home without fear, God used my situation to get me to move to my home.

What was the “turning point” of your restoration Alexy? *

When my EH got involved in a motor accident that totaled his car, he started coming home everyday, though we were not yet in good talking terms. He still came home every day and even very late every night. It was painful and i thought it would never end BUT eventually he started coming home the earliest he has ever been doing and spending a lot of time at home. His heart started turning more to home and towards the children. So many times i wanted to give up because things were not happening the way i wanted and at the pace that i wanted.

I made many mistakes BUT God overlooked all my flaws. I look back and i regret that i did not trust God so much and i regret not Loving my EH in his sin the way God would have wanted me to. I realized that i also had not forgiven him on several accounts.

Tell us HOW it happened? Did your husband just walk in the front door? *

Yes, he did! I actually got used to my EH coming home on Saturday night, but the night of my restoration, this time he came on Friday; i was thrilled and expressed it to him, he just smiled and my restoration was complete.

Did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored? *

No, I did not suspect that it was about to happen, but i knew it would happen eventually. i was expecting things to get harder as a few months prior, i woke up singing “though i walk through the valley of the shadow of death i will fear no evil for thou art with me" in my dream so i was expecting worse things but PTL He brought me through.

Alexy would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you? *

How God can and will Restore your Marriage was really the best with all the principles, and

By the Word of Their Testimony AND Be Encouraged eVideos.

Do you have favorite Bible verses that you would like to pass on to women reading your Testimonies? Promises that He gave you?

Joel 2:25

“I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—

the great locust and the young locust,

the other locusts and the locust swarm —

my great army that I sent among you.”

Esther 6:13

“His advisers and his wife Zeresh said to him, ‘Since Mordecai, before whom your downfall has started, is of Jewish origin, you cannot stand against him—you will surely come to ruin!’”

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women? *

Yes i feel i need to encourage other women!

Dear Friend,

Surrender to God this trial, it is not a mistake, He planned it to happen this way so that you would learn to lean and trust in Him and if your EH is gone, that you stop looking to your EH. I loved the book of Esther, it encouraged me to know how when we sincerely repent wholeheartedly, God will turn our tables around. Read Esther often. To me this book is prophetic. Also pray for a gentle and quiet spirit because it’s golden— not only for your restoration but for your good AND APPLY THESE from all the books, these PRINCIPLES— THEY ARE WISDOM!

Here is one of Alexy’s PR she submitted exactly a year ago.

I am just so blessed that i found this ministry. First and foremost i don't know where i would be if i had not stumbled on this ministry. It is my first time to write a praise report but there is so much to praise God for. I found RMI WHEN I WAS TORN and broken a few month (three) after my EH made a hurtful confession after he could not hide anything from me any more and along with that told me how he felt about me and how we could never be happy together.

Now since finding you, i feel more complete and whole for my hope was on sinking sand and now I’m on the solid Rock!

One night out of pain i got a knife and gave him and i told him to kill me instead of treating me the way that he had been, this was after i had contemplated suicide then i asked God to kill so that way no one would know what and why i was dead. PTL I am alive today more vibrant than ever and longing for God.

I was four months pregnant when this journey begun in that pregnancy I lost fifteen kilograms (33 lbs.) and by the time i was back to work from maternity leave, everyone was asking me how i managed to loose all that weight! I was speechless because i did not know i had lost all that weight though i knew i had shed some weight, which i had struggled to lose for many years.

I have three children and this was my fourth pregnancy, but the childbirth in the absence of my husband was an amazingly very short labor. The nurses were the best. I got a very comfortable room in the hospital —i felt the Love of God. My baby, without any exaggeration, is the most jolly baby i ever had yet throughout my pregnancy. Even though i cried (i had never cried so much in my life and was afraid my baby would be a moody boy) but PTL of all the children i have, this son has taught me how to laugh and praise God!! I have never seen another baby that laughs, dances and claps hands like my baby. This little boy looks for an opportunity in everything to laugh and be joyful—surely he is a blessing and he teaches me to rejoice.

God had clearly spoken to me in a dream about my situation to rejoice and not to look at my circumstances, but instead worshiped my pain and rejection. I was so blind that i thought it was unrealistic for me to rejoice at that moment.

Then i met RMI—YOU GAVE ME GUIDELINES ON HOW TO DO SO MANY THINGS GOD HAD SPOKEN TO ME ABOUT. Without RMI i think i would have failed and gotten stuck in that pain—BUT thank You Erin for letting God use you this way!! You have really encouraged me and brought me out of my pain, guiding me as in the hand of God.

Discovering certain things about my responsibility in this situation has been very painful, but PTL i know He has changed me. I have been plagued by falling many times because i didn't want to accept certain correction and besides that i don't know how to do things any other way.

But now i am deeply yearning for God to pour out a spirit of obedience up on me. All i want now is to do His will. In this journey, my dear sisters, in all the praise Reports i have read He is longing to do this to all who accept and drink from Him—for Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever!! Praise His name forever!!

“Beauty for Ashes”

I am just so blessed that I found this ministry. First and foremost, I don't know where I would be if I had not “stumbled” on this ministry. It is my first time to write a praise report but there is so much to praise God for. I found RMI WHEN I WAS TORN and broken a few months (three) after my EH made a hurtful confession after he could not hide anything from me any more, and along with that told me how he felt about me and how we could never be happy together. Now I feel more complete and whole for my hope was on sinking sand but now it is on the Solid ROCK. One night, out of pain I got a knife and gave it to him and I told him to kill me instead of treating me that way. That was after I had contemplated suicide, then I asked God to kill me so that way no one would know for what and why I was dead. PTL!!! I am ALIVE today more vibrant than ever and longing for God.

I was four months pregnant when this journey begun. In that pregnancy I lost fifteen kilograms and by the time I was back to work from maternity leave, everyone was asking me how I managed to lose all that weight. I was speechless, I did not know I had lost all that weight though I knew I had shed some weight that I had struggled to lose for many years. I have three children and this was my fourth pregnancy but the child birth, in the absence of my husband, was amazingly a very short labor! The nurses were the best and I got a very comfortable room in the hospital. I felt the Love of God. My baby, without any exaggeration, is the most jolly baby I ever had yet. Throughout my pregnancy I cried. I had never cried so much in my life and was afraid my baby would be a moody boy, but PTL of all the children I have, he has taught me how to laugh and praise God. I have never seen another baby that laughs, dances and claps hands like my baby. He looks for an opportunity in everything to laugh and be joyful. Surely he is a blessing and he teaches me to rejoice.

God had clearly spoken to me in a dream about my situation and told me to rejoice and not to look at my circumstances, but I worshiped my pain and rejection. I was so blind that I thought it was unrealistic for me to rejoice at that moment. Then I met RMI!! YOU GAVE ME GUIDELINES ON HOW TO DO SO MANY THINGS GOD HAD SPOKEN TO ME ABOUT. Without RMI I think I would have failed and got stuck in that pain. BUT thank You Erin for letting God use you this way. You have really encouraged me and brought me out, guiding me as in the hand of God.

Discovering certain things about my responsibility in this situation has been very painful, but PTL I know He has changed me. I have been plagued by failing many times because I didn't want to accept certain correction and besides that, I don't know how to do things any other way. But now I am deeply yearning for God to pour out a spirit of obedience up on me. All I want now is to do His will. In this journey my dear sisters, in all the praise Reports I have read, He is longing to do this to all who accept to drink from Him for Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever!! Praise His name forever!!

~Alexy in Uganda