No Secret Formula

“There is No Secret Formula”

To all you women without children - God wants to restore your marriage. And to all you women in the UK - God lives here too...!

I was only married for 6 months when it just turned even more sour and nasty by the day and I kept telling myself "This is not my happy Christian marriage I signed up for."

There were constant battles about money, housework, differences in opinions and crockery flying. We never went to church because we were falling away. I found out things about my husband that made me tell him I was ashamed I married him and I would scoff that I’d never be able to bring children into our marriage, how much I hated him and that everyone told me never to marry him.

Then I eventually was so exhausted and had enough of fights that I told him I was leaving, I'd had enough of this marriage, and he also would have to find somewhere else to live. This in turn led to a fight that turned nasty and the police had to intervene.

Well, I was all for filing for divorce and starting again, maybe even being single the rest of my life. A life of quiet sounded like bliss. But one day I am sure I felt God tell me He wanted to restore my marriage and I was to pursue this. O.K.?! I searched for all the scriptures on marriage I knew and had to have it confirmed - God’s will for my marriage. I must say that God gave me a good telling off for my contentious behaviour and taught me many lessons. However, He is a gentle forgiving Father.

Nobody was with me. Not my Christian parents, who gave me “what for?” and said "best of luck with that!", when I told them God was going to restore my marriage. My Christian friends tried their best but after a few glasses of wine, gave me the sympathetic head tilt...apparently God doesn’t do that!

So I learned I just had to shut up. This was my journey to go alone...me and My God. And eventually I came across your ministry. Which confirmed everything and which I must admit, I devoured in a whole 7 days - then had to let my brain cool down.

Up to this point I had zero contact with my husband or his family, didn’t even know where he was. I felt in my heart I had to write to him and apologise for my part in events. This didn’t sit well in my mind as the material says NEVER to contact them. But it kept stirring in me and I prayed for favour and after a few days, I just had to do it. This letter opened up the doors of communication and we have spoken via SMS every day and met up for a couple weekends away.

In our time apart, God has been talking to my husband too and he has returned to church and has been listening to Christian radio and praying and declaring. WOW...talk about "exceedingly and abundantly beyond all I can ever imagine..."

Husband is due to come home to live tomorrow...Praise GOD! We have a court case to go through first which is not nice but unavoidable and the enemy is trying his best to intimidate...he knows his time is up! But I know who goes before me and has prepared the way. A new journey starts from here.

My advice is that there is no secret formula when it comes to the things of God. You only have to remember who's your Daddy?! The King of Kings. What does that make you? A PRINCESS. An heiress with all authority in your hands and the enemy under your feet. God knows you. He made you. He loves you and wants to heal your life. Take all the RMI has to offer, and then make sure His truth doesn't stay a secret and share the Good News with everyone!!

~ Cheryl in Scotland

Ministry Note: We were thrilled that Cheryl listened to the Lord who led her to contact her husband. The truth is, in the RYM book it says that if YOU are the one who left or kicked your husband out, then you ARE to be the one to contact your husband not wait for him. The "no contact" is for the majority of women whose husbands have left on their own accord.

“Restored Awhile Ago”

Hi There!! I just wanted to let everyone there know my marriage is restored. It wasn't restored the way I ever thought it would be, but PRAISE GOD, we are restored and what’s even better—my relationship with the LORD is stronger than I ever dreamed it could or would be.

My marriage was restored a while ago, but I just wasn't sure how to contact the ministry, I'm hoping someone gets this message now. Would you like me to type up a testimony to share?

~ Lisa in Texas

Ministry Note: We wrote back “Yes” but never got a full testimony. Sometimes He works so fast that we are in awe:

“Pleasant and Loving Spouse”

Hello, I’m sorry for the follow-up email (I know that you discourage it) but wonderful things happened just hours after taking your questionnaire. Encouraging Women advised me not to call him, so I got off the phone with him when he called, and told him to have a nice day and while doing your first week of lessons, we were restored.

~ Jill in Arizona

Within Hours my Miracle Came!

After 2 1/2 years of mostly living separate, I came home to a renewed spouse that had dinner waiting for me and a lot of love. Not only was my husband there asking to come home, he was now pleasant and loving. He told me that someone at his job (a pastor) that he'd never spoken to besides saying hello and goodbye, told him that his family needs and loves him and that he needed to seek salvation, turn to the Lord, and most of all...Go home! Needless to say God speaks through you and I can’t thank you enough for all the support and advice from encouragingwomen.org.

~ April in Florida

Ministry Note: Only ONE in 10 that we help will come back to give God glory. Over the 25 years in ministry, I’ve found that this appears to be fairly accurate when women and especially men show up YEARS later saying they've been restored for years but never told us.

So to make sure you are able to give God the praise for restoring 10 times what we share in our Encouragers, I just uncovered two more RESTORED marriages today that I stumbled on—women who have built their own websites and wrote books—without ever contacting me or RMI—to let us know their marriages had been restored and that they had gone on to have their own ministries :)

“Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD and whose trust is the LORD. For he will be like a tree planted by the water, that extends its roots by a stream and will not fear when the heat comes; but its leaves will be green, and it will not be anxious in a year of drought nor cease to yield fruit'"—Jeremiah 17:9-10

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight”—Proverbs 3:4-6