We Will Never Be a Couple

WE WILL NEVER BE A COUPLE!

What brought you to RMI? Please use this space to briefly let our readers know what your life was like when you first found us, Gayle, so our readers understand just what a miracle your restoration is.

Gayle, how did your restoration actually begin?

Peace to all of you, I am so in LOVE !!!

I want to start by saying that God is tremendously faithful, merciful and full of love, faithful to His promise! How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage saved my life and my sanity.

I am here to advise you to invest more of everything you do in your relationship with your HH, because of Him, through Him and for Him are all things beautiful!! Praise the Lord for our struggles, for what He has prepared for us after the battle is surpassing all that we dreamed!!

I've been with my spouse for almost 7 years in all, and been married for only 2 years. I am converted, as a believer, but he is not. Though he’d go with me to a few services but never really had a heart that was receptive. I'm the kind of person who does everything I know to be right, such as, I respect my husband a lot and everything I know he does not like, I do not do.

It turns out that I always corrected him so that he was not a whole man and by correcting in everything he did it robbed him of feeling like a man! He came from a background very different from mine, he always had everything given to him without effort, and I always wanted to change that, but I could not—only GOD could do it. His free time, from work and me, had already caused a great loss in his life, he was already a user of drugs, but—TODAY he is freed for the glory of God!!

I had always foolishly demanded that he not keep bad company; my pushing had always been for his good, or so I thought. However, like everything I learned here, it turns out that he began to stress and no longer accepted what I said about anything! Due to my contentiousness and bullying him, he simple began to act as he wanted and as you can imagine this began to generate much arguing. At this point in our marriage,my father became gravely sick and needed my help a lot, so I prioritized the health of my father over my husband or marriage. That was, until my husband decided to leave me and move out of our house.

How did God change your situation Gayle as you sought Him wholeheartedly?

It was very painful being abandoned. I had left my job for eight months and was just studying, going back to school (another huge mistake) when he left the house and went to the apartment where he began to live with his mother. He had left me in a rented house with no income. I was desperate, I had no idea what to do. I began to seek spiritual help from several pastors but they all said to give up on my marriage! Can you imagine that? I confess, this began to rob me of the little hope I had. Until one glorious day I was led to do an internet search and I found my HopeAtLast.com, I found this beautiful ministry RMI—this was the salvation that God sent to me, to tell me HE WOULD restore my marriage!!

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Gayle, did the Lord teach you during this trial?

God began to reveal all my mistakes to me, and then showed me what a marriage means to Him. As I read the book How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage over several times that first week, I was totally in shock because what it said was completely contrary to what people around me wanted me to do! As I sought God and began to search His Word deeper to understand the restoration GOD said He would do, my husband started going out with old "friends" (including people who used drugs, drank and got drunk even during the workweek).

As I read all of God’s promises, that’s when my husband said emphatically that he would NOT return. He said that “I WILL NEVER SET ONE FOOT IN OUR HOME AGAIN. WE WILL NEVER BE A COUPLE.” This is what he shouted at me, pointing his finger in my face, when we arrived to sign the separation agreement in the notary's office. Thankfully He’d already transformed me enough to stop me from saying anything (before this I was the one pointing my finger in his face). I was able to remain quiet, nodded my head, and signed the papers that he’d asked me to sign.

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through Gayle?

God began to work in my life in amazing ways! During this time of separation, He supplied all my needs, as He always did and will always do. What I was missing was HIM as my HH. This was the first step that led to my restoration. After understanding that it would be GOD who restored, I realized I should busy myself by deepening my relationship with my HH, which would ultimately change me. Because I had no income, He prepared a job for me so that I had time to study my online courses. He also healed my father (whom I love very much), and caused my husband to fail to register our separation.

When we separated, I willingly gave up everything, our car, our apartment and was left with nothing. Nevertheless, the first month alone, as His bride, I was awarded unemployed (I had been denied) that paid all my expenses!! Hallelujah!! Once you are His, He is very careful with us as His bride.

Gayle, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?

The first turning point was when God took the blindfold off of my eyes the first few weeks of our separation and then I repented of the "old self" and let God redo me. How that came about was my second turning point. I’d gone through the RYM book several times, and then did all the online courses, but it was when I let go of my church (which was easy because they were unsupportive and holding me back in my restoration) and joined RF. I did the FAL course and that changed everything!

Beloved, when we let God take control, HE MAKES THE IMPOSSIBLE HAPPEN. He gave me a Husband whose love changed me, healed me, made me whole and took away any remains of the contentious or needy woman I had been all my life!!!

Tell us HOW it happened Gayle? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Gayle, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?

It happened the day I needed to ask him for the separation document in order to accept a new higher paying job. That’s when he told me that he had given up on wanting a separation and he told me I was supposed to keep all the information as “married.” I said nothing, so he went onto say that he was thinking better about everything, but that he still wanted some time just for him to figure some things out. Beloved friend, I was very happy, but I confess that I did not expect so many more attacks after his statement to me. It turned more difficult because his mother turned against him (for considering returning back home to me), he also got into some huge debt, and started going to parties again with "friends” right after he told me.

Another detail that’s an important factor for restoration is never deny your husband intimacy if they have not yet divorced you. One day my husband returned to our apartment and tried to open the door, but was unable to. When I heard the key being used, I opened the door and he was so surprised. We were intimate and later he started to say that he would gladly delete his facebook and other social media accounts (which is how he connected with the friends he partied with), because he didn't even know why he had created these accounts, and that he never liked these sorts of things.

Though he didn’t say it, I heard he was troubled and worried when I let go of my facebook and other social media (learning this in my courses). And then he got off them and he started to spend nights at home with me. Then one day, after several weeks of coming over to stay overnight with me, he left to go fishing and began leaving his fishing tackle at home, next was his sport bike and that’s when I noticed that he’d basically moved back, he was just missing the rest of his clothes. I began to panic, telling my HH that I wasn’t sure I wanted to lose my time with Him, but the following Monday, he went to talk to his mother and came back with the rest of his things !! GOD said HE would restore and He did.

Not only did I get my earthly husband back, but I found the best HUSBAND ever. Whenever I notice my EH getting difficult, I know I haven’t spent enough time with my HH and drop everything knowing this love He gives me is what my husband and our marriage needs!!

Would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you Gayle?

Yes, as I said it’s important to read How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage and A Wise Woman over many times. Take the online courses and be sure that when you’ve finished, find your HH by taking the Finding the Abundant Life Course. Also begin to help other women by simply sending them to HopeAtLast.com. God will reward you for hearing their cries just like He heard yours.

Beloved friend, God is Faithful, He does not lie and does not return away from the promises of His Word, Believe!!! Your marriage can be restored because that is His will, so believe that even if your circumstances are not favorable for restoration, you need only God to do it! He is the Author of life, nothing is impossible for Him!!

How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage is fundamental in this change, as your foundation but you have to build upon it. Don’t stop and be sure you do A Wise Woman course as this book will show you important revelations once God restores your marriage. Follow all the principles mentioned here in this ministry because everything is taken right from scripture and we all are sustained by the Word of God. Decide not to fight for your marriage, because your struggle is spiritual and against the enemy and not against your husband. Let GOD restore! Fall in love with your HH and begin your honeymoon with Him!

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women Gayle?

Yes, I will do this job He’s called us all too— with a lot of love and faith I can pass on to other women!

Either way Gayle, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

In closing, I would like you to encourage you to learn how to become closer to your HH, to know Him more and more, to fall in love every day for this immensely WONDERFUL Husband!! He is so sweet, pure, holy, faithful, loving, and deserves our praise at all times !! Let GOD restore. We are His creation, it is we who need Him and without Him and our HH we are without everything.

He will give you what you need, what you seek and will surprise you with what you can not even imagine!

The Word of God is LIVING AND POWERFUL

DO NOT GIVE UP, BELIEVE, LOVE YOUR HH. GOD IS POWERFUL TO DO INFINITELY MORE THAN YOU EXPECT !! LET GOD RESTORE!!

I LOVE YOU LORD, MY HH !!!!! I LOVE YOU MY FATHER GOD for everything you promised!!

There is no other like You!!