Win Me Back

Win Me Back!

If you knew my husband you would not believe that he is capable of such a sin, that is why I am writing, if it could happen to me, a person who did not have a bad marriage, it could happen to anyone who falls into sin.

My husband got reconnected with his daughter from a previous girlfriend in high school—old feelings and wanting "things" to be better for his daughter caused him to fall into a trap.

Yes, like so many here have faced, he had an affair (it still hurts to say it). All the books that I began reading stated God knows what we can bare and does not allow anything to happen to us that He will not receive Glory for if we only seek Him. I could not for the life of me figure out what could be HIS plan for my life by letting this happen.

I was so broken and felt as if I would never be happy again. I did not intend to leave because he assured me that it was me he loved and wanted our marriage to be restored. I knew that if I decided to leave our marriage it would not miraculously make everything all better. So I decided to trust God and praise Him for my situation even when my flesh fought against it and, oh boy, did I fight against it.

As a result, I instantly became connected with the Lord like I had never been before. In the midst of all the pain and trauma, there were some silver linings that the Lord wove in. I realized I'd made my husband out to be my god, when it is the Lord alone who should hold that place. Men are broken vessels, and not meant to be worshiped. God help us! The searing pain of betrayal made me come loose from this unhealthy dependency and turned my heart in a fresh new way to the Living God—to find my Heavenly Husband!!

It was He who taught me forgiveness...I was very active in my church but never was taught any of this until I found this ministry. How would pastors be able to teach and preach for that matter about something that I knew nothing about? But due to coming here, I realized the Lord forgave me in a way that I will never be able to repay and then I forgave my husband in a way that he will never be able to repay either.

Things were so bad that I can remember climbing in my closet because I felt so alone in the big world. I stayed there and cried out to the Lord. I believe that God did an instant healing on my mind that day and led me here the very next day. It was my flesh that fought so against it. If you knew me, you would say the same. I had a great deal of anxiety all of my life until coming here.

I knew I could choose to be unhappy about this matter for the rest of my days and not represent His Love, or I could choose to follow what I learned in the Bible, it says: “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended, but this one thing I do, forgetting those things, which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” This one principle changed my life.

Well, my husband played a big role in my restoration process, isn't that amazing? One day he was able to walk with me while I was in mourning, was deeply hurt, and sadly was still angry. He said he'd sought God and laid the outcome at his feet. That's when God told him to begin to "win" me all over again. He killed me with kindness because shortly before I found this ministry, He found Encouraging Men. Soon we began to pray together for the first time in our marriage. We give God glory each day for what HE was GOING to do even when I personally did not FEEL it.... Now today, I feel it and since then, close to a year, we've been happily restored. Thank you for all you do RMI.

~ Stacy (and John) in West Virginia

Fertility Problems Lead to Restoration!

I would like to pass along a testimony I was given by my girlfriend that gave me some encouragement as to how God can move and restore a marriage that truly seems impossible to restore.

Her daughter had been divorced by her husband a few years ago because he had wanted children and was not able to have children by his wife. Eventually he divorced his wife and took up with another woman whom he came to find out he could not have children with either.

During this time that they were divorced his wife became involved with someone else and had a child by that person (she had not remarried), so it was clear that the fertility problem was not the wife's fault. Her ex-husband found out that he was the one with the fertility problem and realizing he still loved his wife and that she still loved him. Soon after, they were remarried and he welcomed the child his wife had with another man as his own, and they now have a restored marriage even with all that happening!!!

To God be the Glory!

~ Carol in New York