I Just Had to Let HIM Work

“I Just had to Let HIM Work”

What brought you to RMI? Please use this space to briefly let our readers know what your life was like when you first found us, Camila, so our readers understand just what a miracle your restoration is.

Camila, how did your restoration actually begin?

My restoration journey began the day that I asked the Lord with all my heart and in a very short prayer to "Do whatever You want to change me." I wanted to know Him with all my heart. I wanted a real relationship with Him. What I did not know was the way that God would choose to answer that prayer. A few days later... my marriage was destroyed. Deep in my heart, I knew that God wanted to change me. I knew that it was the answer of that prayer made a few days before.

My MIL (who was alive during this time) had just returned from a women's retreat and she shared with me some of the material she had received. That was the first time I realized that I had made so many mistakes in my marriage. That I was not a wise woman. I was mean, jealous, selfish, contentious, proud, etc.

My EH left me telling me that he didn't love me anymore. That he was tired of my selfishness, he was not sure about our marriage, and he needed time to think about our relationship. He also wasn't sure whether our marriage was in God's will. That he needed time to seek God. He was so angry with me. I could only see the hate in his eyes. A few days later he moved out and went to live with a friend.

I was destroyed. I couldn't believe this was happening to me. I remember that on that day I went to the church and just cried and cried. I sat in the office of my pastor, explaining to him what had just happened and he told me that maybe it was God's will for us not to be together. When I heard that, I just stopped crying. Then I stopped going to that church. Mainly because of what my pastor told me and also because I was so ashamed of my situation.

I started to go to another church where nobody knew me. And I learned a lot there about the importance of having a relationship with the Lord. And there my precious Lord, gave me a promise and a Word. The pastor used an example that day to relate how God as a Father wanted to work in our lives. The pastor said: "Sometimes we made mistakes...our Father gave us a glass that we have to take care of it, but sometimes we are not careful and we break it...and we want to pick up each piece of the broken glass and put them all together again but we can't...and our Father is telling us DO NOT TOUCH anything....I do not want you to get hurt...let ME pick up every single piece of that broken glass.... and I will give you a NEW one.... one that will never ever be broken again....but I DO NOT want you to touch anything." I took that promise for me....I understood that I just had to let HIM work...that I have to be still.

Months later I went to a special day at church in which we were only supposed to go there to worship God. That day my Father used a sister to give me a word. He told me "Be still, do not do anything. I am just testing you. I am proving your heart." That word hurt me a lot because I couldn't understand why He wanted me to suffer. I knew that no matter the pain that I felt at that moment, it was necessary since I needed to change. Since there were so many things in my heart that were wrong.

Even though my Father gave me those promises after six months I had a crisis and I thought that maybe my marriage was never going to be restored. I did not know whether I was doing things right...etc. In despair, I typed something related to marriage restoration and a group on FB directed me to RMI. I was so happy when I found RMI. When I started to read the first chapters of the book “How God can and will restore your marriage” I realized that I was right believing that God would restore my marriage. Then when I started to do the courses I understood why God had told me months before that He was testing me. I realized I did not love Him as He deserved. He wasn’t my first Love. I started to understand that this was not about my marriage or my relationship with my EH at all. It was a restoration between He and I. I needed to love Him with all my heart, my mind, my soul and my strength. He had to be my everything.

How did God change your situation Camila as you sought Him wholeheartedly?

As soon as I started to read the materials and apply the principles given in the ministry— my situation started to change. My EH started to call me from time to time and he sometimes visited.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Camila, did the Lord teach you during this trial?

There are many principles that I learned . These are the most important that every bride needs to follow:

1. Be still and let HIM work.

2. Let go of your church.

3. Let go of your EH.

4. Let go of everything.

5. Tithe.

6. Be intimate with your HH.

7. Be quiet.

8. Our HH is in control of everything.

9. Do not talk about your EH with anybody.

10. Run to the Lord at every time.

11. Honor your husband and be submissive.

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through Camila?

God has been with me throughout this entire journey. First as a Father, then I admitted that the Lord was just my Savior and not the LORD of my life. When I made HIm the Lord of my life, then I started to know HIM like the lover of my soul. Like my HH.

He was with me from the beginning. He lifted me up. He was my fortress. He never ever abandoned me. He was always there for me. When I felt lonely, He held me in His arms.

He was so merciful to me because my EH did not have an OW. My HH always provided for me. So I just had to deal with my loneliness and myself. I learned just to have HIM. I learned to depend on Him for everything.

Camila, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?

The turning point began as soon as I started to apply the principles. My EH started to call me more often, to visit me, to be intimate and the hatred in his eyes was removed.

I applied the principles and immediately I saw changes in my EH.

Tell us HOW it happened Camila? Did your husband just walk in the front door?

Honestly, the real change started when I found my HH. When I read FAL. I learned that this entire journey was so necessary. That no matter whether my EH was with me or not, what really matters is to have Him as our HH. Before this journey started my EH was everything for me. I thought that I was going to die without him. When he was not by my side my heart really ached. I loved him so much… he was the first man in my life. I first learned what love means with him.

Then I realized that my husband's love was imperfect and that my love was not perfect either. I only had my HH who will never ever abandon me no matter how many times I may fall. That He will always be there for me and that He wants me to love HIM with all my heart. He allures me and He longs for me. He wants me to love Him the same way I loved my husband, as a Husband. That's when I was able to understand that marriage was created for that. To understand the relationship that our Lord wants to have with us.

He is my Husband and I am His bride. Now my HH is everything for me. Without Him, I die and without Him my heart aches. My HH provides everything for me. He gave me a perfect love. He will never ever abandon me. He comforts me. He lifts me up. He pampers me. Why should I want a man like my EH? The way he acts nowadays is far from the characteristics that I look for in a man.

Suddenly, my HH did something in my EH’s life to bring him back. First, my EH got sick and in that moment he realized that his life was so far from the Lord. He could not continue living in the same way. That was the first time that he asked me to pray with him. Months later, my HH made some things happen in my EH's life and he decided to come back. He has been living with me for three months now and is making some plans for his life in which I am included. For me, my restoration began the moment that I found this ministry. I could say that my marriage was restored many months ago....but what matters is that I found my real Husband.

Camila, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?

Yes. According to what I read in the testimonies, it gets harder, when the restoration gets closer. Especially when you do not really want it. When you are happy with your HH. When He is your Husband.

Would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you Camila?

Yes. I would recommend the book How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage and all the online courses that are given to us from this ministry. They give you the strength to continue, but mainly you learn to know that you have someone who really loves you. And that is our Beloved....our Heavenly Husband. Finding the Abundant Life Course will change everything.

Camila, do you have favorite Bible verses that you would like to pass on to women reading your Testimonies? Promises that He gave you?

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Phil. 4 :4

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.(Phil. 4:6-7)

Isaiah 54:4-8

“Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame.

Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.

You will forget the shame of your youth

and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood.

For your Maker is your husband—

the Lord Almighty is his name—

the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer;

he is called the God of all the earth.

The Lord will call you back

as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit—

a wife who married young,

only to be rejected,” says your God.

“For a brief moment I abandoned you,

but with deep compassion I will bring you back.

In a surge of anger

I hid my face from you for a moment,

but with everlasting kindness

I will have compassion on you,”

says the Lord your Redeemer.

Ezekiel 11 :9

I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh

Matthew: 19-6

So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Psalm 27:13-14

I remain confident of this:

I will see the goodness of the Lord

in the land of the living.

14 Wait for the Lord;

be strong and take heart

and wait for the Lord.

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women Camila?

Yes. I love encouraging women.

Either way Camila, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

Dear bride...this journey is hard at the beginning. But when you understand that it is absolutely necessary to go through it, then it will be easier for you. We need to die to ourselves every day. We were contentious, proud, selfish, mean, manipulative but above all this, we forgot our First Love. Our Beloved Lord does not only want to be your precious Savior or your Lord. He is, of course, all that and more, so we have to honor Him for that.

But He wants to be closer. He loves you so much that He wants to tell you every second of your life that you are precious to Him. When you were abandoned, He was there to tell you “I am your Husband.” He loves you like nobody else in this world can ever love you. He is there for you all the time. He knows your fears and your pain. He wants to lift you up. He wants to whisper in your ear that He is there for you for the rest of your days. That His love does not end here, His love is everlasting. Your heart belongs to Him, not to a man. He will teach you to honor and submit yourself to your husband. You will learn to love your EH like He wants you to love him. And this is when He will turn his heart. Once your EH returns to your house, you will understand that all that you learned from this ministry was the preparation for a lifetime journey. Run to His arms all the time, never listen to what the rest may tell you. Only trust in His truth.