Ready to Move Back Home

“I'm Ready to Move Back Home”

How did your restoration actually begin? *

I had experienced depression for as long as I could remember, but I didn't become truly aware of this until after my son was born and I received a diagnosis. With the diagnosis came multiple types of medications. The side-effects included exhaustion, brain fog, weight gain and anger issues and combined these effects had a tremendous impact on my relationship with my hb. Just before our 10th wedding anniversary, I had made a huge decision without informing my hb and it was the 'straw that broke the camels back'. I didn't know until later that someone had been sowing into his life for nearly two years and planting seeds for him to leave me. We made the decision to separate in July, 2010. He left in September and by November, I was crying out to God for answers.

How did God change your situation as you sought Him wholeheartedly? *

One night, after trying to figure out why I felt so strongly about the 'vow' I made and couldn't let go of our marriage, I was asking God, "why?" My heart felt like it had literally been torn in two. I sat at my dining room table with my laptop in front of me when all of a sudden, as I cried out to God in anguish, I saw an image of him with the cross on his back and he had fallen to the ground. It was almost as though He was giving me a tiny glimpse into a pain that only He could endure. I reached out and began to type on the keyboard - I cannot recall what I typed, I was so distressed. The next thing I knew, I was opening a facebook page that provided resources and information about restoration! I didn't even know that restoration was an option for me and I had been a Christian for most of my life!!! As soon as I went on to the site a lady began talking with me. She had just finished asking God to send her someone who was desperate for Him. And there I was!!! She began to share with me about Erin Thiele's from Restore Ministries and the realities of 'standing' for my marriage.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), did the Lord teach you during this trial? *

One of the most important realities for me was the fact that with God, nothing is impossible. I had a child-like faith for some things but I didn't know how to ask and that was another key area of learning for me - "You do not have because you do not ask." The realities of making significant changes in my life and removing the outlandish expectations I had placed on my hb were life-changing. I followed God's Word, not man's. It was difficult to do but I knew without a shadow of a doubt that God was doing something amazing.

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through? *

I was so tormented about the idea of my hb possibly finding someone else. This just about destroyed me. I knew the enemy was putting people in his path but I believed in God's word: "They shall come out against you one way and flee before you seven ways." Deut 28:7. I would also pray the hedge of thorns around my family asking God to *prevent* evil from coming near us, and that the heart of my hb would be for the wife of his youth. It was amazing to watch as God moved to protect us!!!

What was the “turning point” of your restoration? *

There were times when I would be so tormented. If I hadn't heard from hb for a few days, fear would try to take a hold of me. BUT GOD!!! I relied on the scriptures that were so relevant, so true, as torches that shone in those darkest, scariest moments of my life! My hb was tempted. I know this. But I can tell you I was AMAZED to watch as I believe God sent one lady to another country! A man who had been sowing seeds of destruction and worked with my hb retired and NOT ONCE has he crossed the threshold of our home - which I prayed and believed in God to prevent! Another woman who worked with my hb had been relying on him emotionally and I believe God caused her to take another job that forced her to travel so much, they lost complete contact!!! Praise GOD!!!! Indeed, watching all of this unfold, were all instrumental to bringing my hb back home to us.

Tell us HOW it happened? Did your husband just walk in the front door? *

After my hb left, I rented out our five bedroom home and moved into a smaller house with two bedrooms for myself and our son. The house had issues with mold and moisture that made me quite ill. I had to send my son to be with his father because I was fearful that he would become sick. It was around this time that my hb bought a house, for the purpose of a place for me and my son to live. It was truly amazing. One of the major issues in our marriage was the fact that I was bitter about the responsibilities that came with higher income. I believe God allowed great healing to take place as my hb was given his rightful authority in these areas. It was because the house was his that he felt comfortable enough to drop by. I didn't push or pursue or place any restrictions on him - I just prayed and left it in God's hands. My hb would mention things along the way that gave me an impression that he wanted to come home, but I never felt released to mention this to him. Instead, I asked God to use my words and was very, very careful with what I would say. I will never forget the evening when he had dropped by. He was standing at the kitchen counter and I had just come out of the laundry room in the hallway. I looked at him and and he turned around and said, "I think I'm ready to move back home, now."

Did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored? *

I had been asking God to restore my hb to Him first, before allowing him to come back home. I truly had left it all in God's hands and did everything in my power to avoid manipulating or trying to coerce the situation. In retrospect, I think I was at a point where I had simply gone through every painful event that could possibly have occurred and my faith had been stretched to a point that I was just at a place of 'peace'. For the entire time of this journey, I felt close to restoration. There were times of great stress and doubt, absolutely, but once I agreed with God, I felt it would happen at any time.

Would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you? *

I gained such healing from the "How God CAN and WILL Restore your Marriage." resource! Also, the "Wise Women" resources have been instrumental - not only for me but for many of my friends as well. We have seen healing restorations take place, I believe firmly, because of the teachings in these resources.

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women? *

Oh, yes!

Either way, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with in conclusion? *

Nothing - absolutely NOTHING - is impossible with God. He loves us with an everlasting love and when we have faith and make our petitions known to God, when we take the time and learn HIS message for us, the mountains WILL move! Only believe and receive!!!

~ Daniella in Canada