Tea and Consent
TASK. Identify the 5 to 8 situations the video describe after you offer somebody a cup of tea. Keep a record of what to do and what not to do and things you may do. "Hey! Would you like a cup of tea?"
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TASK. Identify the 5 to 8 situations the video describe after you offer somebody a cup of tea. Keep a record of what to do and what not to do and things you may do. "Hey! Would you like a cup of tea?"
TASK, Fill-in the blanks and check your answers.
If you’re still struggling with consent, just imagine … you’re making them a cup of tea.
You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “Yes, I would LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!” then you know they [want / don't want](1)___________ a cup of tea.
If you say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they um and ahh and say, “I’m not really sure…” then you [can / must] (2)___________ make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they [might not / must not] (3)___________ drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – this is the important bit – [make / don't make] (4)___________ them drink it. You [must / can't] (5)___________ blame them for you going to the effort of making the tea on the off-chance they wanted it; you just have to deal with them not drinking it. Just because you made it [means / doesn't mean] (6)___________ you are entitled to watch them drink it.
If they say “No thank you” then [make / don't make] (7)___________ them tea. At all. [Make / Don't make] (8)___________ them tea, [make / don't make] (9)___________ them drink tea, [get / don't get] (10)___________ annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just [want / don't want] (11)___________ tea, ok?
They might say “Yes please, that’s kind of you” and then when the tea arrives they actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure, that’s kind of annoying as you’ve gone to the effort of making the tea, but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea. They did want tea, now they don’t. Sometimes people change their mind in the time it takes to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk. And it’s ok for people to change their mind, and you are still not entitled to watch them drink it even though you went to the trouble of making it.
If they are unconscious, [make / don't make] (12)___________ them tea. Unconscious people [want / don't want] (13)___________ tea and [can / can't] (14)___________ answer the question “do you want tea” because they are unconscious.
Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said yes, but in the time it took you to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they are now unconscious. You [should / should not] (15)___________ just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and – this is the important bit – [make / don't make] (16)___________ them drink the tea. They said yes then, sure, but unconscious people [want / don't want] (17)___________ tea.
If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it, and then passed out before they’d finished it, [keep / don’t keep] (18)___________ on pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away and make sure they are safe. Because unconscious people [want / don't want] (19)___________ tea. Trust me on this.
If someone said “yes” to tea around your house last Saturday, that [means / doesn't mean] (20)___________ that they want you to make them tea all the time. They [want / don't want] (21)___________ you to come around unexpectedly to their place and make them tea and force them to drink it going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST WEEK”, or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA LAST NIGHT”.
Do you think this is a stupid analogy? Yes, you all know this already – of course you [would / wouldn't] (22)___________ force feed someone tea because they said yes to a cup last week. Of COURSE you [would / wouldn't] (23)___________ pour tea down the throat of an unconcious person because they said yes to tea 5 minutes ago when they were conscious. But if you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they [want / don't want] (24)___________ tea, and you are able to understand when people [want / don't want] (25)___________ tea, then how hard is it to understand when it comes to sex?
Whether it’s tea or sex, Consent Is Everything.
Police launch sexual consent campaign comparing rape to forcing people to drink cups of tea
'If you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they don’t want tea, then how hard is it to understand when it comes to sex?'
The campaign uses making tea as an analogy for sex Thames Valley Police
“In reality it has never been a 'grey' area, and this campaign, which we are proud to be part of, makes that clear.”A metaphor about consent!
Teachers: Want a version with no f-bombs? Here's a link to the clean version:
VIMEO - vimeo.com/128105683
YOUTUBE - youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU
English, French and Spanish subtitles on youtube -
(Dirty) youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8
(Clean) youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU
This is a collaboration between blogger RockstarDinosaurPiratePrincess and our studio. It was really fun to make!
http://rockstardinosaurpirateprincess.com/2015/03/02/consent-not-actually-that-complicated/
http://magazine.good.is/articles/tea-never-looked-so-good
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FSleY0yTrM4 https://vimeo.com/126553913
A new police campaign on sexual consent is using tea as part of an analogy to describe assault and rape.
Thames Valley Police’s "Consent is Everything" drive includes a three-minute video showing stick figures making, drinking or refusing tea and forcing it down each other’s throats in different circumstances.
“If you’re still struggling with consent, just imagine that instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea,” the voiceover says.
“You can make them a cup of tea but be aware that they might not drink it and if they don’t drink it - and this is the important bit - don’t make them drink it.
“And if they say ‘no thank you’, then don’t make them tea. At all. Just don’t make them tea. Don’t make them drink tea, don’t get annoyed at them for not wanting tea, they just don’t want tea, ok?”
After emphasising that even if people say yes to tea, they can change their mind, the video explores the issue with someone who passes out in the middle of tea-making.
“Unconscious people don’t want tea and they can’t answer the question ‘do you want tea?’ Because they are unconscious,” it continues.
“Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said ‘yes’. But in the time it took you to boil the kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they are now unconscious.
“You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe and ... don’t make them drink the tea.”
Enforcing the point that consent on one occasion is not permanent, the video describes how saying yes to “tea around your house last Saturday” doesn’t mean they want hot drinks all week.
“If you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they don’t want tea, and you are able to understand when people don’t want tea, then how hard is it to understand when it comes to sex?” the voiceover concludes.
'Unconscious people don't want tea,' the voiceover says
Consent: It’s as Simple as Tea was originally created by Blue Seat Studios and scripted by blogger Rockstar Dinosaur Pirate Princess.
Thames Valley Police launched the campaign on Tuesday with its specialist sexual violence prevention group and rape crisis centres in Oxfordshire and Buckinghamshire.
Detective Chief Inspector Justin Fletcher said: “The law is very clear - sex without consent is rape … awareness of what sexual consent means and how to get it is vital.
“Together we can prevent rape by ensuring everyone knows when they have sexual consent – and when they do not.”
Christina Diamandopoulos, the co-director Rape Crisis in Wycombe, Chiltern and South Buckinghamshire, said that myths around a consent “grey area” had continued for too long.
“Confusion around consent has been the result of historical distortions,” she added.