the real victory - How to Win

By: John Kazerooni

The room was cold and silent, as if even the walls had lost their spirit.

The parents were arguing over something insignificant when their son came home. With excitement, he greeted them.

His father looked at him angrily. “How many times have I told you not to come into the house with your shoes on?”

“I’m sorry,” the boy whispered.

Before he could say more, his father took off his belt and struck him. A small mistake had become an excuse for violence. But was the boy really the reason for his father’s anger?

Perhaps this small family’s behavior is a reflection of something much larger.

Two neighboring countries may live peacefully for generations. Their people may trade, work, and live beside one another without hatred. Yet their leaders may become enemies, and suddenly ordinary people are asked to fight one another.

Perhaps we have become too willing to turn disagreements into conflicts, and conflicts into wars. We fight, harm, and kill, and then find reasons to justify what we have done. We call it defense, freedom, security, justice, or victory. But who really wins? And who suffers?

War does not end when the bombs stop falling. A bomb may explode in seconds, but its consequences can remain for generations.

When a city is bombed, it is not only buildings that disappear. Innocent civilians are killed. A hospital, home, and school may lose their electricity. A water-treatment plant may stop working. A sewage system may be destroyed. Roads and bridges may disappear beneath the rubble, making it difficult for food, medicine, and emergency help to reach those who need them.

And destruction has a long memory.

The dust from demolished buildings can carry toxic substances, heavy metals, chemicals, and asbestos into the air and water. Contaminated water and destroyed sanitation systems can turn war into a breeding ground for disease. The soil can remain contaminated long after the soldiers have gone.

And some dangers remain hidden.

Not every bomb explodes. Unexploded weapons may remain buried beneath rubble, roads, fields, and homes. Long after soldiers have left and governments have declared the war over, a child, a farmer, or a worker may discover one.

The war may be over for the people who started it, but it may not be over for the people who survived it.

When homes, farms, businesses, and factories are destroyed, people lose more than property. They lose their ability to earn a living.

Poverty grows where livelihoods once existed. Families are displaced. Children grow up surrounded by ruins instead of opportunities.

And inside the human mind, another kind of destruction takes place. The sound of an airplane may become a source of fear. A loud noise may bring back the memory of an explosion. The body may survive the bombing while the mind continues to live inside it.

This is the price of war that cannot easily be measured in money.

It is measured in lost childhoods, broken families, fear, displacement, illness, poverty, and futures that never had the chance to begin.

It is measured in generations that learn about war before they learn about peace.

Unfortunately, we sometimes forget one of the simplest truths of living in a connected world: What becomes a disaster or a serious problem in our neighboring country may eventually come to us.

We may not know when. We may not know how. But the consequences may cross the border.

Poverty is rarely just a lack of money. When poverty is combined with a lack of education, healthcare, and opportunity, it can create a chain of problems that reaches far beyond one family or one country.

Poverty can lead to poor nutrition. Poor nutrition can lead to illness. Lack of healthcare can allow preventable diseases to spread. Lack of education can make it harder to understand and prevent those problems.

Unemployment and hopelessness can create frustration. Frustration can create conflict. Conflict can create instability. And instability can create migration.

One problem leads to another until, eventually, the consequences cross the border and come to us.

A fire in our neighbor’s house may not bring us only smoke. If it is not stopped, the flames may spread and burn our own house as well.

In the same way, a crisis in a neighboring country may begin on the other side of a border, but if we ignore it, its consequences can eventually reach us—and perhaps cause damage far greater than we imagined.

A war next door may begin between governments, but its refugees may eventually arrive at our borders.

An economic collapse next door may begin in their markets, but eventually it can affect ours.

Disease, pollution, desperation, and violence do not stop at a border.

We may draw borders on maps, but human problems do not always recognize those lines.

Perhaps we should not wait until our neighbor’s fire reaches our roof before we decide that it is our fire too.

So the wisest thing we can do with our neighbors is not isolate them. Perhaps we should educate, trade, help, and cooperate with them.

Because a prosperous and educated neighbor is not necessarily a threat. It may be our best protection.

Why wait for the fire to reach our house when we can help put it out next door?

If we help our neighbors before their problems become ours, perhaps we are not simply helping them. We are protecting ourselves.

What If the Root of the Problem Is Deeper?

What if the other country is rigidly committed to an ideology that teaches domination, conquest, or even the destruction of others?

What if its leaders truly believe that their way of thinking must prevail over the rest of the world?

This is where the pursuit of peace becomes more challenging.

We cannot solve such a problem by pretending that it does not exist. And we cannot correct a dangerous belief if we are afraid to name it or honestly examine it.

At the same time, we should not confuse a country’s people with the ideology of its rulers. Ordinary people may simply be trying to raise their children, earn a living, and live in peace, while powerful leaders speak in the name of an ideology that may have been falsely presented to them.

They may never have had the time or opportunity to examine the truth, read history, or question what they were taught, and therefore may believe blindly.

By awakening them and revealing the truth, we can allow them to reach their own conclusions—not through force, but through reasoned judgment born of understanding.

And that realization may take centuries to bear fruit.

An ideology that has lasted for so long cannot be destroyed by a bomb in a day, or even in years. It requires persistent effort, awakening, education, and an honest evaluation of its beliefs.

One of our greatest mistakes is that we try to hide the fundamental problem while trying to solve it.

I can understand why, in the past, one might have been afraid to speak out. But today, with freedom of speech, as long as what we say is honest and supported by facts, it should not be a problem.

Today, many people in the new generations think about and evaluate facts independently, without the influence of outsiders.

Unfortunately, we cover the truth with careful words. We place the truth beneath the ashes and then wonder why the fire continues to burn.

And when thousands are killed in a single day, we ask: How did that happen?

But hiding a problem does not make it disappear.

If the roots of a tree are diseased, trimming its branches will not cure the tree.

And if the roots of a conflict are buried in beliefs that glorify domination and destruction, bombing the branches will not remove the roots.

The truth may be uncomfortable, but it is often the beginning of understanding.

Perhaps this is one of the greatest challenges of our time: to confront dangerous ideas without turning human beings into enemies simply because of where they were born or what they were taught to believe.

That is why rigid ideological leaders may fear awareness.

They know that aware and educated people ask questions.

They know that knowledge gives people the ability to compare, think, doubt, and seek evidence.

And they know that truth can become dangerous to any system that depends on unquestioned obedience.

That is why, in many rigid or authoritarian regimes, asking certain questions can become dangerous. Speaking openly against those in power may be forbidden, punished, or even result in death. Books may be censored. Information may be controlled. History may be rewritten. Independent voices may be silenced.

Why?

Because a person who begins to ask “Why?” has already taken the first step toward thinking independently.

And once people begin to think independently, fear becomes harder to control.

Perhaps this is why some leaders fear schools, universities, free speech, independent journalism, and the open exchange of ideas more than they fear weapons.

Weapons can destroy buildings.

But awareness can challenge the foundations of power.

A bomb can silence a person for a moment.

But a question can live for generations.

That is why the most powerful response to a rigid ideology is not always another bomb.

Sometimes it is a question, an honest history book, and sometimes it is simply the courage to say: “Let us examine this, look at the evidence, and ask why.”

When people are allowed to question, they are no longer simply receiving ideas. They are examining them.

And when truth is allowed to compete freely with propaganda, people can begin to recognize the difference.

Education does not tell people what to think.

At its best, it teaches them how to think.

And a population that knows how to think is much harder to control.

Unfortunately, we have also developed another way of avoiding difficult truths.

Instead of examining what is being said, we sometimes give a name to the person who is saying it. For example, we may call someone “ideology-phobic” simply because they are questioning or exposing a dangerous ideology. But perhaps we should ask a different question: Why are we so afraid of examining the ideology itself?

If an ideology is strong, why should it fear questions?

If its beliefs are true, why should they fear examination?

If its history is honorable, why should we be afraid to study it?

And if an ideology contains ideas that promote hatred, domination, or destruction, why should exposing those ideas be called a “phobia” rather than an opportunity to understand and challenge them?

There is an important difference between hatred of people and criticism of ideas.

The real question is not why someone is willing to expose a dangerous ideology. Perhaps we should ask why the ideology itself is so afraid of being exposed. Because truth does not need protection from questions.

Only ideas that cannot survive questions need silence.

So instead of bombing, perhaps we should educate. Instead of destroying, perhaps we should reveal. Instead of answering an ideology with another act of violence, perhaps we should bring it into the light, examine it, question it, and understand where it came from.

We should ask how hatred was created, how fear was passed from one generation to another, and how the desire for conquest became acceptable to some. Then we should show the truth—not a truth created by propaganda, fear, or political power, but a truth that can withstand questions.

History, when it is not manipulated, gives people the opportunity to understand where those teachings came from. And truth gives people the freedom to decide whether those beliefs still deserve to be carried into the future.

A bomb can silence a voice, but truth can give people the courage to speak. A bomb can create fear, but understanding can weaken the roots of hatred.

If an ideology is strong enough to survive only when people are prevented from questioning it, then perhaps the most powerful weapon against it is not another weapon—but awareness.

Our goal should not be to destroy the people who hold dangerous beliefs, but to create a world in which those beliefs can be examined openly and peacefully.

And If None of These Work?

Then perhaps we must face an uncomfortable truth: peace does not mean allowing ourselves or others to be destroyed.

Even then, the purpose should not be revenge, humiliation, or destruction for its own sake.

For our protection, we should use the least destructive means necessary to stop the threat, while protecting innocent people on both sides and never closing the door to peace.

Because there is a difference between having the power to fight and wanting to fight.

At that point, unity among nations becomes essential. Countries can stand together through diplomacy, economic pressure, the closing of embassies when necessary, and the suspension of trade or other forms of cooperation with an aggressive government. They can make it clear that aggression will not be accepted or rewarded.

The borders of united countries should be treated as one common line of defense. An attack against one should be understood as a threat to all.

Unity is not only powerful; it gives nations greater strength, confidence, resistance, and hope. An aggressive country, on the other hand, may become weaker when it realizes that it is facing a united world rather than isolated nations.

If we remain vigilant and act while an aggressive country is still growing in power—before its aggression becomes dominant—we may be able to stop it without allowing the situation to escalate into a much larger war.

At the same time, if the citizens of that nation come to understand the fundamental truth of their identity, they may begin to dismantle the pillars of lies that have been built around them for centuries. This is the only power that can truly transform a nation—not a foreign country, not an outside force, and not anyone else.

History has shown us that the power of unity can prevent the need for war.

And yes, it can work—but it takes time. Education, awareness, awakening, and the courage to read, question, and think for ourselves are slow journeys that demand patience, energy, and perseverance. True freedom is not simply escaping the walls around us; it is learning to understand why they were there in the first place.

If we become impatient, we may climb out of one pit only to fall into a deeper abyss, mistaking another form of darkness for freedom. The path to true liberation cannot be rushed; it must be walked carefully, one step, one question, and one awakening at a time.

I understand that patience is a difficult lesson for someone who is suffering. Yet we have grown accustomed to wanting everything instantly—a quick answer, a sudden healing, a magical cure for every pain. We forget that some things cannot be hurried.

A flower does not bloom because we command it to. It needs darkness beneath the soil, rain, sunlight, and time. If we keep pulling at its petals, asking it to bloom faster, we may only destroy the beauty that was quietly becoming.

Perhaps healing is the same. Some things in life must be allowed to unfold in their own time. Patience is not doing nothing; it is trusting the unseen work that time is quietly doing within us.

What Are We Protecting?

We spend billions upon billions of dollars preparing for war while millions of ordinary people struggle to live with dignity. We speak of protecting human life while people die from hunger. We speak of freedom while innocent people are killed because their countries or governments disagree with us. We speak of protecting civilization while destroying homes, hospitals, schools, roads, farms, and the futures of ordinary people.

We can intercept a potential enemy’s bomb in the sky before it reaches our land. But we can’t control and contain wildfires that destroy thousands of homes and vast areas of forest.

What exactly are we protecting?

Perhaps we have become so obsessed with power that we have forgotten its purpose. Power should protect people, not make people suffer.

And maybe we do not always want peace as much as we claim. Not because ordinary people want suffering, but because people in power may benefit from conflict when we close our eyes to their violence and crimes.

Fear can create power. War can create influence. Weapons can create profits. And ordinary people can be left to pay the price. Then we are told that war creates jobs and prosperity. Perhaps it does. But what does it say about us if we need destruction to create prosperity?

What kind of civilization builds its economy by first destroying what human beings have built?

The greatest defense of a country is not its weapons, but the awareness, prosperity, health, dignity, and hope of its people.

And perhaps the safest border is not the one with the highest wall or the most weapons, but the one surrounded by peaceful, educated, and prosperous neighbors.

Because if our neighbor’s suffering eventually comes to us, perhaps helping our neighbor is one of the most intelligent forms of protecting ourselves.

Perhaps our greatest victory is not defeating or bombing our neighbor. It is making sure that neither of us has a reason to fight.

Lingering Questions

If a fire in our neighbor’s house can eventually burn our own house, why do we wait until the flames reach our roof before we act?

If awareness, education, trade, and cooperation can prevent suffering, why do we spend so much more preparing for war?

If a bomb can fall in seconds but its consequences can last for generations, what exactly do we call victory?

If a war destroys a hospital, a school, a water system, a farm, and a child’s future, who has really won?

If ordinary people on both sides want to live in peace, who benefits when they are turned against one another?

If we know that a dangerous ideology exists, why do we sometimes hide it instead of openly examining it?

If an ideology teaches conquest or destruction, can bombing its followers truly destroy the ideology?

If hatred can be taught from one generation to another, could understanding and awareness also be taught from one generation to another?

If history can help us understand how dangerous beliefs were created, why not teach history honestly and openly?

If we hide the truth beneath the ashes, are we solving the problem—or simply burying it until it rises again?

If we can distinguish between a people and the ideology imposed upon them, can we oppose dangerous beliefs without hating the people who were born under them?

If awareness can teach people to question what they have been told, why do we not invest more in education before reaching for weapons?

If truth can weaken the roots of hatred, why do we sometimes fear the truth?

If rigid ideological leaders fear educated people because they ask questions, what does that tell us about the power of awareness?

If a regime must silence questions, censor books, control information, or punish dissent to preserve its ideology, can that ideology truly survive in the light of truth?

If people are never allowed to question what they have been taught, how can they know whether what they believe is true?

If we call someone “ideology-phobic” simply because they expose or question a dangerous ideology, are we examining their argument—or avoiding the argument itself?

If an ideology has nothing to fear from truth, why should it fear those who ask difficult questions?

If criticism of an ideology is automatically labeled as hatred or phobia, how can society have an honest discussion about dangerous ideas?

If truth does not fear questions, why should we fear asking them?

If unity among nations can deter aggression, why do we sometimes wait until an aggressive power becomes too strong before standing together?

If an attack against one nation threatens all its allies, can unity prevent an aggressor from believing that it can isolate and defeat its neighbors one by one?

If our goal is protection rather than revenge, how do we make sure that even our response to aggression does not become another cycle of destruction?

And if the fire is burning beneath the ashes, should our first response be to drop another bomb—or to uncover the fire, understand where it began, and find a way to put it out?

Perhaps the deepest questions are these:

Have we become more powerful than wise?

Have we learned how to win wars but forgotten how to win peace?

If humanity has become powerful enough to destroy itself, do we also have the wisdom to choose not to?

What if the greatest weapon against a dangerous idea is not the power to destroy it, but the wisdom to expose it to truth?

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