Franz Neugebauer

Intention

I am curious about your way of training empathy and learning more about it.

Susanne interviews Franz

Where did you have trouble?

It wasn’t trouble. It was hard at some point.

Talking: I stopped and waited for the other one. Talking was also some effort.

The listening was harder. Iris talked about talking itself and was hard not to dive into talking about talking

and only rephrase, not go further with the thoughts.

Do you wish something was different?

no it was a good exercise to train this skill

When was the last time you talked like this?

It was in university and used the Carl Rogers approach - the therapeutic approach.

For a conflict it’s good approach.

People understand their own problems best. They are their own experts.

So it is enough just to reflect and they will find the answers to their problems themselves

It is similar to socratic approach.

Did you find it hard to refrain from putting your own thoughts into it?

yes, it was really hard

Why?

You have to blend things out.

I think just rephrasing is a logic, analytical thing.

And letting your own thoughts go somewhere one is a creative divergent thinking.

this is not feeling what the other person feels

you train how to get the main message.

you just summarize. you don’t mix it up with your own message.

when you sum it up you get the main message

Susanne Interviewee Name: Franz

Insight: It was hard to only rephrase, not go further with the thoughts - this took a lot of analytical thinking.

Feedback: Yep - that fits

Feelings

• • concentration

  • mental strain

  • self-control (maybe even suppression of feelings)

Needs

• • practice

  • self-awareness

• guidance

Brainstorms

• • do regular circles

  • create an App - someone speaks - you rephrase - compare afterwards

    • (or select from different answers)

    • You could also have different tasks like 1. sum up, 2. Paraphrase, 3. Exact words

    • see https://www.jointogetherstrong.com/

    • https://itunes.apple.com/de/app/together-strong/id903930751?mt=8

Feedback

I Like… I was really surprised that this listening is really hard to do and it was challenging to do it. It was engaging. At first - honestly - I thought it might be boring if we just listen and say again what the other one said but then it was really cool!

The thing with the document was also very cool - I liked it that we worked on it together and it created a feeling of working-together (cooperation).

I liked your mediation Edwin - I liked that you always watched the time and kept the time scedule.

Thanks a lot Edwin!

I wish… At the end it was a bit long - my concentration went down - maybe make it just 2h. or split it.

What if… we just rock empathy? (Franz)