Conflict Resolution 

as a core concept

INTRO 

This topic is a core concept generally taught in elementary and middle grades in Health Education but absolutely applicable to high school students.  It is likely that the content on this page will not be formally taught in class but the information contained on it will be mentioned in other topics including Violence/Violence Prevention and Relationships

You may also want to look at the page on Communication specifically, the section on I-messages .   

The Cycle of Conflict graphic above is very simple but powerful:

1st,  a person develops beliefs which can be intrinsic beliefs as in Spiritual/ethical Health section of Pises OR it can also mean perception/point of view/interpretation of a situation

then, a conflict occurs due to differences in the beliefs, perception etc.  This is OFTEN as simple as I'm right, you're wrong or "you hurt me because" or possibly, "I want what you have" etc etc etc

.Once a conflict, occurs, they have a response...the response, or reaction leads to  a consequence.  

The consequence or result can be positive or negative...negative often hurting someone (self or others  

Then, it repeats at another time 

Conflict_and_Resolution_intro

The EXTREMELY BASIC slideshow to the left defines Conflict and Resolution then puts them together to define the full term before giving simplistic definitions to the types of Conflicts also pictured below

The slide show above also defines the 5 types of solutions which are also in picture form below .  Using the terms in the slideshow, can you match the "win" or "lose" with the term below?

The graphic to the left and the solution types in the slideshow above (and conflict management styles handouts) indicate there are 5 different ways one can resolve a conflict.  

The picture below notes that ultimately, it's really your decision on whether conflicts can  be resolved or the continue.  

Sometimes, though, there is a 3rd option and that is that we can not find a solution but, it's time to just move on and start fresh with someone else.  This is the reason for "break ups" or ending of relationships

5 different Conflict Resolution flow models aka "The rules of fighting fair"

This model is for an individual to follow when they are seeking to solve a problem.  It's about personal responsibility to ensure good communication

This model is a thinking process where both people take time in each area to share, brainstorm, and decide

This model is a process mainly for parents to model to their children how conflicts should be handled but can also be applied to relationships

This model is a basic set of rules and tends to be Mr. Corabi's favorite. It puts emphasis and ownership on each person as an individual.  He particularly likes rule 3 "attack the problem not the person".  SO MANY conflicts would be solved so much faster or never start in the first place if this idea was taken into account more often. 

and then, there's 

is a problem solving process where a neutral friend or peer around your age facilitates a discussion between the two people in order to come to a peaceful agreement. The flow chart to the right is from an old Middle School text book but it is a really good snap shot of what happens.  

Usually, peer mediators are specially trained to follow a specific process but anyone can certainly use this process to help facilitate problem solving and Conflict Resolution

What is Conflict Resolution: define a problem and solution mapping (posted by that's easy learning ans taken from resolution Australia)

Avoid Avoiding Conflict (David Thornsen, PsyD, TEDx)

How to Deal with Conflict (Accredited Skills Austrialia as posted by Litmos Heroes)

Resolution Styles (sunshine Hung)

Attack the Problem not the Person (Ron Jenson, Life Coach)

Peer Mediation quick overview (Ben Greenberg, created on Pow Toons)

What is Peer Mediation (R3solute)