If only it were that easy..

PARENTING MEANS SO MANY THINGS because the term gets added to and the responsibilities change based on age of the child.  There is absolutely no way that this can be answered on 1 webpage. Below is a MOSTLY TEXT explanation of things to be aware of.  IT IS NOT meant to be all inclusive

What can be answered are BASICS:   What does it mean to be a parent?

To care for and provide basic needs of a child including but not limited to food, water, warmth, shelter, medical healthy, safety, education (through hs), and emotional support  

Teaching and providing guidance to a child about right from wrong (which obviously is influenced by laws, culture, religion, etc)  

Teaching a child to be independent once they reach adulthood 

How do you know you're ready? 

There is a difference between planning to have a baby and choosing to keep the baby when you get pregnant. Even people that think they are ready, often go through struggles.  It is not easy all of the time to raise a baby and be a parent.    

Generally speaking, in the United States, these very basic items should be considered if trying to decide if you are ready:

1) Ready for responsibilities to be a parent 

2) Finished School

3) Considered an adult by age of minority

4) Have a partner ready to help you

OBVIOUSLY, there are many, many babies born without 1, 2, 3 or all 4 of these items in place and the parent/parents step up and do a fine job with the responsibility.  This obviously means that even if you're not ready, you can still be able to be a good parent!  It will take a lot of effort if you're ready or not.    

Consider:  What would your IDEAL situation be to get pregnant / get someone pregnant,  become a parent (even if through adoption), and raise a child? 

 If  you are not ready yet but still want to have sex, what will you do to prevent unwanted pregnancy (see also contraception section) 

SPECIAL NOTE ON FATHERS and involvement of fathers

BEFORE  anyone goes any further, the comments in this section DO NOT IN ANYWAY suggest that same sex parents or a single mother CAN NOT raise a child properly.  The teacher writing this is a product of a single mother home, for the most part, from the time he was in 2nd grade. IT was not until his 11th grade year that his father did anything other than call him on Wednesday, take him to breakfast on Saturday mornings and take him to 1 Phillies game each summer.  There are hundreds if not thousands of children in single mother homes AND also hundreds if not thousands of children in American homes where a birth parent is not involved and they are being raised in a same sex, 2 parent home.  THESE home raising situations can certainly work

HOWEVER

The need for father or father figure in a growing child's life has been well documented.  

In 2008, Then President Barack Obama stated "Children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely to drop out of school and 20 times more likely to end up in prison."  

According to the NATIONAL FATHERHOOD INITIATIVE, a non-profit organization based in Philadelphia, PA offering support classes to men for being a father:     

The above bullet points are some of the numerous facts, statistics and/or other data points available on the site. NOTE, some of these stats are specific for a father living in a home and some are specific to involved fathers meaning, they may not live in the home but are active in their child's life. Furthermore, a father figure otherwise known as a positive male role model, can often substitute for the absence of a father.

It should also be mentioned that some families may have a physically present father but that father may still be absent due to lack of involvement in the child's life.

AGAIN, this is not to say that a single mother can not raise a child on her own.  This is also not suggesting that 2 females, 2 males or 2 other wise non-binary parents can not properly raise a child.  The site also does not speak on the differences associated with involved foster parents or adopted parents in comparison to birth parents.    It does however demonstrate a strong correlation between  the involvement of fathers in their developing children's lives and specific physical, intellectual, social, & emotional and behavior issues.  If you are a male a student who is going to be a father, make a commitment to help be there for your child as they grow.  

Questions to ask right away after giving birth?

Questions to consider for parents particularly mothers:

Breast-Feeding or Formula?        

Should they drink Milk?  

When to start certain foods to prevent allergies?

Regular check ups, 1st weekly, then monthly, then yearly, are essential to ensure correct, safe, healthy development.  

Should I get all Vaccines for my baby?  Is there an alternative schedule

What will my baby’s sleeping schedule be?  Can I help it to stay scheduled? 

How do I prepare for fixing bad habits before they begin 

Where am I getting money to pay for all of what the baby needs 

Which parent (if 2 are involved), will be responsible for what part of the upbringing.  It should be a shared responsibility 

Stages of child development change how you parent:

How you speak to, care for, correct, and your amount of involvement/role as a parent change based on their stage of development.

Infant   -     Toddler - Pre-Adolescent  - Adolescent (teen)  - Young Adult (older teen)  -Adult

IF you are a teen parent, seek help from a variety of sources.  This includes both advice on being a parent and assistance, when needed, for services.  Sources of advice and help may include parents/guardians, mentors, government agencies, school counselors, websites, books, etc.  Ultimately, it's your decision how to raise your child but it's also your responsibility to provide them with the care they need.  

Below, are some articles that may help

 

A FEW articles to help...

Parenting.com (box to left) 

Are You Ready to have a baby posted on "parenting"

15 signs you're ready.... as posted on Today's Parent

Parenting 101 includes basic responsibilities as posted on First thing's First. org

Supporting teen parents as posted on child welfare 

Teen Parents as posted on Healthy children .org  

This Unit is a comprehensive although not all inclusive Unit on various topics in Human Sexuality (listed in the drop down navigation menu) that could be developed into a full course.   Content in the Unit ranges from GRADES 5-12 but OBVIOUSLY some of the content is NOT for all grades.  For a Top 10 list of reasons to include a comprehensive program for sexuality  / Sexual Health education rather than just Abstinence only Education, please CLICK HERE.   

ALTHOUGH ALL EDUCATIONAL,  STUDENTS NOT ENROLLED IN MR. CORABI'S HEALTH CLASS OR HEALTH CLASS AT THE ARTS ACADEMY AT BENJAMIN RUSH, SHOULD GET THEIR PARENT'S PERMISSION BEFORE OPENING ANY LINKS OR DOWNLOADING ANY HANDOUTS.  Other Teachers choosing to use information in this unit should use their discretion based on District Level, Community Level and School Level curriculum guidelines and policies. 

It is assumed that students assigned to Mr. Corabi's class or Health Class at the Arts Academy at Benjamin Rush have their parent's permission based on weekly communication via google classroom posts, email or letters given to students for parents/guardians.  Note:  A child can consent on their own for Sexual Health Education and testing at age 14 in Philadelphia, PA.