Recently in France, some strip-dancers in France were teaching their skill to women so that they could share them with their husbands. Some feminists were protesting outside, claiming that were doing was degrading to women. I want to see this situation addressed.
The woman who wants to learn to do something nice for her man is not against women, and she is not against equality. She is someone who wants to do something nice to someone she loves. My wife had many feminist ideas, but she liked me. We had a mostly even relationship. And I respect her – and she respects me - even though I am no longer with her.
I used to visit strip clubs; and I did not find the women who worked there to be dumber or weaker than the average person. Some were actually quite erudite and articulate. They are seen badly and they are treated badly. They are regarded as stupid, and when it is found that they are not stupid they are regarded as evil. Neither leads to a good place, and many of these women have horror stories to tell.
The problem that these women have, that more who take more conventional paths do not have, is that there is nobody to protect them. Women situated in marriage are protected by their families or their societies; but women who are into sex industry have nobody to protect them and many who want to ugly things to them and believe they can get away with them and be thought right. They are already doing something that violates social norms, so society leaves them defenseless. It is no wonder that many such women grow to hate the system or to hate men.
There is in many cases a disconnect between people’s values and likes. They either do not value what they like or do not like what they value. So many men are attracted to women who are beautiful and free-spirited but want in their marriage an obedient virgin. This is a recipe for disaster. People either get what they want and don’t have value for it, or they get what they value and don’t derive any satisfaction from it. In any case the relationship goes bad.
If a woman freely chooses to learn lap dances and suchlike, then it is her right. It is not submitting to patriarchy or degrading women for the woman to do such things. It is doing something nice for someone whom one loves. It is in no way inconsistent with respect or equality. And it is also a way for the women teaching such classes to make themselves socially useful instead of living precariously on the fridges of society and getting its worst.
As for their students, that allows them to have in their lives something fun, that gives color and richness to their relationships without sacrificing integrity. They are still together with their partners; they don’t run around or do anything destructive. It is no more misogynistic or chauvinistic than it is to pursue either family path or career path. You are enriching each other’s life. That makes it a worthy endeavor.
Instead of criminalizing being good to one’s partner, feminists do far more for their fellow women by helping them to have better relationships. There is a vast body of knowledge on the subject in everything from psychology to Buddhist zen practice. For that matter it is not being p*ssywhipped to teach men how to please their women. It is simply doing a good thing.
If you think that men are bad, then the honest solution is to have nothing to do with men. At least the misandrist feminism is not as common as misogynistic heterosexuality; and both are terrible. Anything human is capable of choice; anything capable of choice can be good or bad. The women who learn from strip dancers how to please their men adds a beautiful aspect to their relationships. They should be addressed with gratitude, not disrespect. And that is the case with both how they are treated by their men and how they are treated by others.