Sex can happen in any number of ways. It can be a beautiful thing if it’s done within the context of a loving relationship; it can be pleasurable within the context of a casual relationship; and it can be terrible if it is within the context of rape or incest. Of course we see all of the above all the time.
All of the above also get confused all the time. On one side see confusion between loving sex and sexual exploitation or degradation. On another we see glorification of sex. Both are wrong. Once again, sex can go in any number of ways, some better than others. It is important to see potentials for confusion between all such things and not allow that confusion.
Is sex good? Is sex bad? It can be either of the above or one or another mix of the two. As anything that has appeal, sex can be used for wrong things without it itself being wrong. We see the same with all such things – things such as beauty, intelligence, money and anything else that is wanted. The value that is wanted gets misused, leading many to think that the value is wrong. But the value itself is not wrong. Its misuses are. And equating the value with the misuses of the value tarnish the value itself and give it a bad rap when such a course of action is completely wrong.
So we see many people having negative sexual experiences. They then decide that sex is wrong. Sex is not wrong; doing it in the wrong way is wrong. If you are sleeping with everyone around, it becomes not fulfilling after a while. If you get raped, it can be a terrible experience. Some people when faced with such experiences turn against sex as such. They are wrong. Sex can be good and it can be bad.
As is the case, of course, with just about anything that has appeal to people.
It is important therefore to consider the context of a sexual relationship. Such relationships differ vastly. There are miles to go between beautiful sexual shares and exploitative violent sex. The exploitative violent sex tarnishes sexuality and leads people to attack loving sexuality. This is wrong. This is dead wrong.
I want to see more beautiful sexual shares take place. I also want to minimize sexual violence and abuse. That being done, sex can be beautiful, and something that is attractive is also valued. And that carries benefit all across the board.