Someone once wrote that my essence was about attracting women. No, my essence is about producing beautiful poetry and original thought.
Another person was once claiming that my “obsession with women” was ungodly. So let me get it straight. Does God teach you to hate your neighbor?
I like women. For the most part I see women as being better than men. Maybe it is because I am from Russia, where women are for the most part much better than men. I have known any number of bad women as well, and some of them treated me badly. I did not allow it to make me hate women.
So we have Paul claiming that women should be in subjection to men because of the sin of Eve. I consider it wrong to punish people for the actions of someone over whom they have had no influence. As a Jew, I refuse to be blamed for the actions of Karl Marx or Harvey Weinstein. I had no influence on these men. I refuse to have to suffer for their misdeeds.
Generally, the women whom these men have in their lives are good ones. Bad women avoid such men. These men need to have the attention of women who are actually bad. That way they will realize how good they have it with their women. And then they will be less likely to mistreat them.
Your wife is no more guilty for the actions of Eve than I am for the actions of Harvey Weinstein, or contemporary Germans for the actions of Hitler, or contemporary Americans for the actions of Ted Bundy or Jeffrey Dahmer. Every person needs to be seen for who he or she actually is. The men who want to dump on the women need to be met with women who are actually bad. Then they will learn to appreciate what they have with women who aren’t.
I am not in a position to be with every woman in the world. I am however in a position to influence other men to more loving attitudes. What these men need to understand is that the woman is with them because she loves them; and it is wrong to reward someone for loving you by treating her like dirt.
I had a friend from Palestine who said that he was doing a lot of yelling at his woman. I told him that doing that made it harder for her to love him. In many situations of domestic violence the woman does not dislike the partner; she dislikes the violence. And she would be willing to stay if the man gets a grip on himself.
Doing that is not “selling out to women” or being “p*ssywhipped.” Doing that is a matter of character. Character means controlling what you do with your fists and your mouth; and a man who beats up on a woman fails to exercise character. If your woman really is a bad person, leave her. And if she is a good person, then appreciate her and treat her right.
More such men need to understand just how good the women in their lives are. There are plenty of bad women out there, but they didn’t have to deal with them. I did; but once again I never allowed this to make me hate women.
So we have many men say that a woman won’t respect a man unless he controls her. I never tried to control my former wife. She has respect for me and none for the men in her past who tried to do that. Any man can beat up on a woman. It takes a lot more to love her. And men who claim to have character need to aspire toward doing the same.