Social conservatives talk a lot about family values, but many of them don't practice them. The most important family value is being good to one's family. And most of these people are not.
When family is done wrong, that discredits family itself. This leads many people to become anti-family. I used to be anti-family myself, then I had a family of my own and realized how foolish that stance was. Family is not the problem. Abuses of family is the problem. The family can, and should, be done better.
Instead family values gets used as cover for wrong behavior in the family, such as domestic violence and incest. And that, once again, discredits family. A good father does not need to appeal to family values to retain his parental authority. His actions toward the children win their respect.
The anti-family agitation is destructive, and it is based on a confusion. The confusion made is one between the value and the misuses of the value. Abuses of a value discredit the value itself; and when the name of family is used for wrong things then that discredits family.
I know how beautiful family life can be when it is done right. To the people caught up in this confusion, I recommend seeing through it. Wrong things can be done for family; wrong things can be done for just about anything. That does not mean that family as such is a bad thing.
Making the clarification between the value and the misuses of the value can be useful for many things. Wrong things get done for reason, for beauty, for money, for intelligence, for moral values. This leads many people to turn against the value itself. This is wrong. The problem is not with the value but with the misuses of the value.
So yes, it is possible to have family without it being done in hypocritical or abusive ways. That parenting has been done wrong of oneself does not mean that one himself cannot be a good parent. Discard what is invalid and keep what is valid. Do away with abuse in families while supporting family as such.