There are many people who see their own as good. Meanwhile they are cruel and abusive to the not one’s own and see them in many cases as not even human. The result is unbelievable hypocrisy. The same quality is either valued or not valued depending on who wields them. You get to get the psychological perks of abusing another person for supposedly being weak while allowing yourself the privileges of being a victim.
When I was at a poetry reading in the San Francisco Bay Area, I got into a fight with a singer there. He complained to the boss. He said among other things that he was pouring out his soul in his songs, and that me and other people there were lunatics. So are you then more likely to have a soul than the next man, and for what reason exactly? Are other people with artistic interests lunatics?
We see this, on a much grander scale and involving much more people, all across the board.
At first it’s “we are normal and sane, you are freaky and weak.” As you show yourself to not be as weak as some may have thought, suddenly you are dangerous. First strength is something to cultivate and its lack to destroy; then it is something to fear and demonize and keep away from the kids.
We see this happen all around the land, and nobody is making an issue of it.
So we have some women afraid of masculinity as such, whether it is good or bad. Their sons see them as organs of oppression themselves and support people such as Eminem and Osama Bin Laden. The people who suffer from this the most are the women who partner with their sons. And if their sons cannot find a woman, then the people who come from this the most are themselves.
Oscar Wilde said that we have been given a world that only our folly keeps from being a paradise. Here, is created a hell for all participants. Everyone becomes the worst person that he can be. The men acting like pigs, and the women acting like jerks, then feeds each side in justifying their view of the other side. It becomes credible that men are pigs – it becomes credible that women are jerks – and of course the victims of this are many. They include women who have to deal with men who are pigs; men who have to deal with women who are jerks; and of course that most grievously wronged constituency, the children.
The best constituency of course are the strong and the kind. A strong and kind man is a woman’s dream. If a woman has sons from a bad marriage, she should not be castrating them; she should be teaching them values. Then they will be both good and strong. And one would be a positive force in the world, challenging other men toward better behavior and having enough potency to make credible to them a better way to have relationships.