Not that long ago, I wrote on the Internet that Spartan king Menelaus did the wrong thing by invading and destroying Troy because his wife Helen left him to be with Trojan prince Paris. Some people jumped on me and said that Paris and Helen committed a crime, and that Trojans deserved to be killed because they supported them.
By that standard, all Americans and Australians deserve to be killed because there are many men in both countries who are married to women from Russia or India or Iran.
I not only support intercultural relationships because I was in one. I support them because they are good for the civilization. They create a rightful set of incentives within society. When left to their own devices people will choose what is good for them. In relationships that means gravitating toward people who are willing to treat you right. Intercultural relationships will bring together men who are willing to be good to women with women who are willing to be good to men. That will create better relationships for both parties than what they stand to expect at home. But more importantly – far, far more importantly – it will create a rightful set of incentives within society. Men will have a real-world reason to be good to women, and women will have a real-world reason to be good to men – or else see the other gender leave in large numbers to be with people who are willing to be good to them.
The people who attack me for what I have done are fools and hypocrites. They condone severe brutality and vicious exploitation but attack someone who's sacrificed a very nice setup to move across the world to be with someone he loves. Things are not often what they seem. There are any number of player types who know how to put on a front and trick a woman into a hideous situation. The people think that they are nice guys. Whereas not many people see me as a nice guy, but I am someone who is genuinely loving, generous and affectionate and willing to treat my family right.
There are some people who think that the solution is vicious feminism and government-enforced action in that direction. There are others who think that the solution is grinding women down through brutality and court abuse. Neither begins to be the solution. Both are part of the problem. In the first situation the women are taught to be horrible people and to treat men terribly. In the second situation the men are taught to be horrible people and to treat women terribly. In both cases we see horrendous injustice. Both sides in the gender conflict are evil and make the world a worse place.
The gender war is not the solution. The gender war is the problem. The gender war teaches both men and women to be horrible people and take it out on, respectively, the women and the men who have done the least to cause either problem. The women take it out on men nearest the liberal centers of learning and culture who are the least misogynistic men out there. The men take it out on women in right-wing or Muslim or inner-city communities who have done the least to cause vicious feminism. In both cases the worst possible behavior gets encouraged and rewarded, whereas better attitudes and better values get people abused. And that makes the world worse for everyone.
The solution is the opposite of the gender war. The solution is for men to be good to women and for women to be good to men. That means two things: Encouraging such things and rewarding such things. The first means giving people the courage that they need to love whom they love, whatever any Iago type, male or female, may tell them. And the second means putting into place enforcement mechanisms toward that end.
This is why intercultural relationships are good for society and civilization. They stand to reward willingness by men and by women to be good to their partners. And they stand to disincentivize ugly behavior by either gender toward the other – or else, once again, see the other gender leave in large numbers to be with people who are willing to be good to them.
In both of these I lead by example. I married a woman from Australia, and I treated her right. There have been many people howling for the blood of us both. That is because what we did was a solution to the injustice that they have been perpetrating. I am a man who is willing to be good to my partner, and I have proven that. This disproves those among men who believe that women should be treated like dirt.
I encourage more people to do what I have done. You will most likely be facing nastiness, but what you will be doing is rightful. You will be giving someone good a chance at a better life. But more importantly you will be loosening the grip of both sides in the gender war who exploit people's failure and misery to advance themselves while making the world worse for everyone. And in this you will be doing something real in order to create a better world.