One argument that has been used to keep feminism-influenced men from forming relationships with classically beautiful women is that they are slaves to narrow expectations of the patriarchy.
In many cases that is not the case. What is actually happening is that the woman seeks to excel and to be her best. These are virtues, and ones that should be affirmed, and there is nothing patriarchal about it.
I do not think that feminists have heard this argument, and they need to.
I have been with two gorgeous blondes: Julia and Melanie. Both were amazing people. They were kind. They were compassionate. They were first-rate artists. Both experienced far more than their fair share of suffering and abuse. Men wanted them, but they weren’t willing to be good to them. And other women hated them for being everything that they were not. In spite of this, neither of them had ill will toward other women, and both were even willing to help them. This makes them both far better people than the women who were attacking them.
Saying such things is not misogyny or anything close to misogyny. Saying this is a labor of love. It is loving whom one loves enough to go to war for them. Both of these women were strong enough. But it takes someone like me to fight for their honor.
Excellence is a virtue, and one that should be affirmed. Women who pursue excellence are not slaves of the patriarchy; they are women with good values. They have a lot more to teach other women than do the women who think that such things are patriarchal. I have loved such women, and I am willing to face abuse by people who hate them. And I hope that more other men make the same choice.