Are Women Wild?

There are people who justify violence against women by claiming that women are wild.

The correct response to that is that there are many things of beauty and goodness that are wild, and if you are getting something out of your relationship with a woman then you must be good to her whatever you think of her character.

Are women wild? Some are and some aren’t. I had a friend who identified women with social control. Anything human is capable of being wild, and anything human is capable of being tame. There are men who think that women enslave men and use them as beasts of burden. Maybe the women who do that also think that men are wild or destructive. In either case, I see no reason to see either men or women as being more wild or more tame than the other.

The women with whom I am most concerned are of course the artistic type. These women are beautiful, sexy and passionate, and many men want them. They however are unwilling to treat them right. Many think that such women are wild or irrational. They however get vast things out of relationships with such women. Which means that they better treat them right.

The problem there is discordance between likes and values. These people are attracted to one set of qualities while valuing the opposite set of qualities. They get what they want, but they are dissatisfied with it and go on the attack, sometimes vicious attack, while making everyone – including themselves - unhappy. The correct solution is to bring likes and values in accord with one another. Either learn to value what you like or learn to like what you value. Either learn to respect the women to whom you are attracted, or be attracted to the kind of woman whom you can respect.

Once that is done, one can have marital happiness. If that is not done, one will always be dissatisfied with one’s partner and one will always be a jerk. As for women being wild, once again I see no reason to believe them to be wilder than men. Some are tame and some are wild. And if you don’t like wild, then go for someone who is tame.