A woman once wrote on the Internet that she doesn’t owe it to anyone to be pretty.
That is correct. You don’t owe it to me to be pretty. But neither do I owe it to you to put up with your attacks against women who are pretty and men who like them.
Because of the demonization of beauty by feminism, beautiful women aren’t welcome in feminist-influenced cultures. This leaves them nowhere to go to except men who are abusive and patriarchal. Meanwhile the men with liberal sympathies are appropriated by mean and aggressive women, who treat them badly while spitting upon the better women, whom they blame for the wrongs that get done to them and hold in contempt.
So we see valuation of beauty seen as being shallow. There is nothing shallow about the Sistine Chapel. There is nothing shallow about Yosemite Park. And there is nothing shallow about the artistic women that I have been with, who were beautiful not skin-deep but all the way to the bone.
Or we see valuation of beauty as being sex-based. I valued beauty long before I had sex hormones. I don’t only value beauty in women. I also value beauty in nature and art, even in architecture and technology. It’s not about sex or about image; it is about valuing beauty for sake of beauty. Some things are good just because they are beautiful, whether or not they have utility.
I’ve been with two gorgeous artistic women for whom beauty was about far more than attracting men. It was for them an ideology. They produced beautiful art, and they were beautiful in manner and presentation. I loved both of them; I still love both of them. There is nothing shallow about them, and there is nothing shallow about the feelings I have for them.
Feminism does women vast disservice by attacking beauty. In this is attacked an area in which women have a clear superiority. Comparable to that would be men attacking physical strength or athletic achievement in other men. I do not see this being done, and I do not see why there should be attacks on beauty in women.
And I especially do not see how attacking beauty in women can coexist with the legitimate goals of feminism.
Valuing beauty is not chauvinistic and it is not misogynistic. It is affirming something that women are better at than are men. As such it celebrates, not degrades, women. And that does more for women than the exertion of thousand man-hater feminists.
Now there are any number of women who generally aren’t seen as attractive whom I hold in high esteem. What I do not hold in esteem is a clearly errant misdirection of feminism. That beauty is abused by stupid teenagers and unethical plastic surgeons is not the fault of beauty any more than abuses of money or intelligence is fault of money or intelligence. The confusion is between the misuses of the value and the value itself. Stupid teenagers and unethical plastic surgeons do not own beauty, nor do they deserve credit for beauty. Beauty existed long before they existed; it will continue existing long after they are gone.
There will always be people more endowed than you, and there will always be people less endowed than you. This is as much the case with beauty as it is with anything else that is strengthening. If you don’t want to be beautiful, that is your prerogative. What is not your prerogative is abusing women who are more beautiful than you and men who like such women.
So we see such claims as that beautiful women are stupid, shallow and weak. Don’t tell that to Russian women. These women are at least as intelligent as any American feminist, and they have a lot more to offer both women and men.
As for myself, I love the women I love enough to make a stand for them. And it is high time that more men who have value for beauty do the same.