I get tired of people seeing their partners or their children as bad people but insisting on staying in their lives. If your woman is a bad person, leave her. And if your child is a bad person, give him up for adoption.
My former wife’s father told me that she was manipulative. He was trying to poison his daughter’s husband against his daughter. What kind of a father would do such a thing?
A person in such situations who gets portrayed as bad has it worse than people in high-security prison. She becomes dependent on, and bound to, her worst enemy. Lives are lost to this kind of thing, and in all cases it is completely unnecessary. If you think badly of someone, do not have her in your life. Find someone whom you can respect and have a decent relationship with her.
Probably the worst thing that one can do to a child is convince him that he is bad. This has worse effects than sexual abuse. It leads to self-hatred and a self-defeating, self-sabotaging behaviour. This is as bad for the family as it is for the child. The child sabotages himself; which means that he is also sabotaging his family.
Making a case why the person is bad does not change the results. Once again, if you think that someone is bad, don’t have them in your life. Chances are, they will find someone who will think well of them, and you will be free to be with someone you may hold in higher esteem.
If you think that someone is bad, get them out of your life. Otherwise you waste two lives – theirs and your own. And that is a far greater wrong than anything of which you may be accusing the person.