Trigger warning: Mentions of Sexual assult, rape.
Dear Azrael,
I have friends that went through experiences involving sexual assualt and even direct rape. One of our other friends keeps talking about it and scolding us for not speaking up about it, even though it is clearly triggering and we have asked them to stop. My friends who went through this told me in confidence, so it's not like I can tell them to stop and betray their trust. This is extremely harmful to them. What should I do?
From concerned
I'm so sorry this has been happening. I feel maybe this person scolding you and your friends is genuinely worried about you guys. Plus making them probably a victim of those things too. From experience I’ve regretted telling anyone about someone sexually assulting me or suggesting certain things towards me, leaving this to stick with me for a long time.
But being said If this is happening at school please try to tell someone immediately.
From one of my other responses, I’ve gotten a rape threat in my locker, after telling some school workers they didn’t look into this problem and worsely tried to accuse me of putting the note in my locker. Even in times where things are frustrating confusing and hard,
Please try to stand up.
Rape is not funny.
Sexual assault is not funny.
So keep your head up and strut down the hallway and anyone who sexually assaults you or makes you feel uncomfortable feel what the right thing to do is and do it.
From your third eye,
Azrael
OUT
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Dear Azrael,
Why do guys make jokes about things that are really offensive like sexual assault and rape? I have gotten told that someone wants to rape me before and the same person did some other not ok stuff. I reported it but still why do they do it?
-Feminist
Dear Feminist,
Honestly I don’t really know the reason why. We live in this world where males are considered to do things and be manly getting all the girls and stuff. Well at least that's what society says. I’ve gotten a rape threat in my locker and have felt really uncomfortable ever since then. Like you I reported it, but no one did anything about it. I hear boys make sexual noises in class and talk about sexual things yet the teachers don’t do anything about it, even if they notice it. Even if it isn't fully directed at you, a lot of people in your class probably end up feeling uncomfortable and grossed out, like me and you! Almost all of my female friends have been sexually harassed at school or outside of school, AT LEAST once.
My most important advice is,
People can’t always get away and win, and for that to happen you need to stand your ground and call those people out so the teacher has to do something about it.
Make a statement and tell those people to shut their mouths
Your third eye, Azrael
Out!
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Dear Azreal,
How do I deal with the crushing weight of life?
From, Anonymous
Dear anonymous,
Honestly dude or dudette, I do not know. It can get really stressful sometimes and I feel that school may add onto it. It will be bad and it will be good. Keep on keeping on :)
From Azrael,
Hope you feel better!
Editor note: Remember, your teachers and staff are here for you! Please let someone know if you need help.
